Babies born~March 1st-15th 2008 #10

[prama]

re dtd: it's also cos steve doesnt seem that interested these days and says it's cos of his diabetes..that still make me feel like crap (havent told anyone this

bron - hehe.. poopy had a onesie that said TCP/IP but mostly I IP,and we have a shirt that says RTFM ..Read the F manual, very geek haha. but now we'v changed it to Respect Thy Father and Mother!

skye - cant wait to see your new store!!
Sorry abt AF, were you hoping for another bubba xoxox

[bjrose]

Lol, Prama, no. One day maybe, but not right now.
I'm just curious as to what's happening with my body. I've been on & off the depo & not sure if I'm ovulating or anything. Wondering if I'm back to regular, or still every 6 - 7 weeks like I was when AF first came back.
Thought I'd see what happens while Anthony's away...hopefully I won't screw up & end up UTD, lol!

[Sammiejane]

hi...

I miscarried today.
I never thought that i would be so empty
I knew it was happening, pretty much, yesterday but was hanging on to the hope that its was just old blood being expelled... then it changed...
Booked for an u/s monday to see if i need a D and C (hope not)
feel really low, sad and just crappy.
I am of the theory that everything happens for a reason and it wasnt meant to be, but it doesnt make it any easier really.
Going to have a drink tonight, its not constructive at all, but i dont really care!

Sorry again for the me post, love to you all and your kidlets
xo

[prama]

oh sj i'm so so so so sorry.. i dunno what else to say.. or to make you feel better...
everything does happen for a reason but wont make you feel any better.
im so sorry darling. xoxo

[danniellabella]

Oh SJ. I was so hoping that I wouldn't read that. Hugs hun. I don't know what else to say. Sorry for your loss

[bjrose]

I'm so so sorry SJ.
Thinking of you Please take care of yourself

[india44]

Sent you a FB hug too Sammie but just wanted you to know am thinking of you. Take care of you ok. So very sorry *hugs*

[all girls]

Oh honey I'm so sorry make sure you take as much time as you need to grieve and remember you are allowed to be angry, sad and devistated for as long as it takes. Sending you a big hug xoxo

[bjrose]

Freaking out here guys. Just need too freak out with you guys too, lol!
Desperately need help...can a 7 year old get af??








SJ, just wanted to send you some more I really really hope you are ok. Talk to us any time.

[danniellabella]

SJ, how are you feeling?

[all girls]

Skye Codie has been having af symptoms for quite a few years since she was about 7-8 she has been pre menstrual and has a little spotting too so don't freak out think its pretty normal, she might have scratched herself or something too i know its scary but all sounds pretty normal unless it is a lot of blood, might be time to have the chat with her if you haven't already... Codie still hasn't got af yet and she is almost 12 so stay calm hun xoxo

[bjrose]

Thanks Trina. It was more than spotting though. It was like me not knowing, going to bed & waking up in the morning iykwim. I doubt I'd even have noticed spotting. It was a good 5cm round & dark, like it was happening over a few hours iykwim.
I'm pretty sure its nothing too, but there was just too much there IMO.

[Sammiejane]

Hi Girls,
Im doing Ok,(TMI ALERT) the worst is passing it all and then flushing it down the toilet, it just feels wrong you know...
Anyway, not so sad anymore, being pretty rational about it all really, the baby wasnt well and so ccouldnt live, nothing i could have done about it...kwim
Its hard telling people and when people go out of they way to be nice i ball, but its getting easier... hardest thing was calling the OB and telling them that i wouldnt be coming to my first appointment.

Going back to work on Thursday and then having Friday off to get another scan to see if i have "cleared" it all...
Feeling pretty sore and tired, but iguess thats to be expected, the heat isnt helping though.
On a positive note on Monday when MJ was in DC other than getting the U/S i got curtains ordered for Mj and DSS rooms and i will try and get my Tax done on Friday - might as well make the most of being off work!

MJ is going through a smacking phase, something that she must have picked up at DC - seen other kids or something as we dont smack her... have put her in her room twice tody.
How do you guys discapline? its hard at this age as she really doesnt understand.
I give her a warning and then if she does it again she goes into her room for a minute.
Then we talk about what she did and why it was wrong.
Its been a trying few days as i emotionally am not at my best to handle it.
DH has been great, but im the one that is there all the time...

Hope you are all well,
Skye how did the Drs appoint go?

Thanks again for all your support

xo

[danniellabella]

SJ - You have a remarkably positive attitude about everything.

Re discipline: We do smack Jazz now and then, though currently the only affect it seems to have is her smacking us back. Recently I've been giving her warnings and then I put her in her room for 1-2 mins (sometimes slightly longer if I'm trying to do something like cook or serve dinner). Usually when I have put her in her room for more than 5 minutes she falls asleep.
On the times when she's in there for 1-2 mins, I then go and open the door and get down to her level and tell her that she had to have a time out because (whatever the reason is) and that she has to say sorry to mummy. She will say sorry and give me a hug. Sometimes she'll say sorry after the first warning before we even get to time out which is great.

This morning she came into our room at 5:30am, so I took her back to her room, put a DVD on and shut the door. An hour later when Matt got up and opened her door, she came into our room, climbed up on the bed next to me. Normally she will give us a good morning kiss without being asked. This morning she didn't do that so I asked her for one. She said "I don't wanna kiss" Not a nice sentence to hear, but I was excited that she said her first sentence. I asked her if she didn't want to give me a kiss because she was mad at me for putting her in her room this morning and she said "Yes. mad"

[Sammiejane]

Thanks Danni

Skye, how did the Dr's appointment go?

Got another US tomorrow, lets hope my body has done its thing

Hope everyone else is good

[prama]

sj - we dont smack poopy as we think he doesnt understand what he's doing at this stage tho, smetimes he repeats things just to see what our reaction is. he really only misbehaves when he's tired/sick/bored.
i guess it depends what he's done for us to discipline him. when he's cranky/bored/tired he tends to bite (at home only) i do a pretend cry and say it hurts lakshman, dont do it. he looks at it and then gives me a cuddle. and i tell him thanks lakshman, and that I know he's sorry and that I'm sorry too and explain to him that biting hurts and he shouldnt do it.
we try to keep thngs as consistent as in day care, where if a child does something to another child,they explain that it's wrong and it has hurt the other child and ask them to cuddle and of cos they so easily forget and forgive. if there's a hitting or biting, they get the child to caress the other child's arm etc and say be gentle etc.
lakshman has gotten into trouble for hugging too hard (he apparently only hugs the girls) and theyve told him to be gentle.

at home, the time i've smacked his hand was when he kept sticking it into the power point, he kept doing it probably cos of my reaction and to see how much he can get away w it! at the end, he smacked my hand back!
but if he starts doing things that he shouldnt be doing, we tell why he shouldnt be doing it and then distract him to do something else.

it's probably going to get harder when they are older and more demanding..

re: smacking, I dont know the answer to this but do you t hink kids tend to smack even when dont do it at home as a natural instinct to vent their frustration. sometimes kids hit or bite other kids cos htey cant express themselves in words.
hmm i also better be careful when i smack steve on the bum and vice versa.. hehe

take care, sammie xoxoxo

[bjrose]

Sorry guys. Update in thread. In Eumungerie on MIL's pc. No home til Sunday I think, so will catch up properly then xx

[danniellabella]

I didn't get the job I had an interview for a couple of weeks ago. They narrowed it down to 2 and I was one of the 2 and they were having trouble deciding and even wanted to create another position so they could have both of us (but they can't just do that). Anyway, in the end the person who got it already works in the area and knows the database program so they don't have to do much training and thats why that person got it over me.
I got very good feedback and had a lovely chat with the chair of the appointment committee.

Spoke to my boss and he said I'll definately still have a job there next year so I'm happy that I don't have to panic coz my current contract finishes on 31 December. I just need it in writing.