Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - October 2009

[Inanna]

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[craftymummy9]

Hi ladies hope you are all well and feeling really postive this month !

Sorry elsielouise that your DH is out of town just think of it as a good chance to get some really good growing for next cycle you know what they say about a rest !

Murrycod still got everything crossed for you I think this is the month a good few will be getting a BFP lets hope so anyway !

Scarypinkfairy any news yet did you get sorted ? I so hope you did then you can get down to the business of TTC without anymore worries.

Ric my body is playing up a bit too I think after a loss we have to give ourselves at least 6-8 wks for our bodies to get back to normal but a 2nd opinion wouldn't hurt especially if your not too keen on your GP.

Everyone else good luck with BD ing lets hope we get the receipe right this month !

AFM well I think AF arrived on mon as lost a bit of dark brown needed a pad but not a lot lost then nothing the rest of the day. Tues morning same thing and weds too but nothing today. Was wondering if I should get some ovulation predication sticks as not sure when I will O and at least if I don't then I will know for sure I didn't.
Any thoughts on these things never used them before. Antone had them off ebay seem a good price ? or would you say get them from the chemist ?

Thanks for reading anyway and this is sent to all of us

[coco1411]

Hey! I love my Avvy!! Woo hoo!! I sent the lady some photos and sh matched it perfect Even the kitties!!

This makes the possible bfn in a week bearable hahaha

[sunny09]

Coco, ur avatar is fabulous I LURVE IT!!!! I hope it brings you luck

[snugglybean]

Greeting from the massive pregnancy convention I seem to be living in... wish I could participate.

Woohoo for the new thread! Hope there's more bfps in it!

Coco- I love your avvy too! So cute!

[Looppylouie]

Well......I just found out my sister is pregnant. I should be happy for her but I'm not really, it was meant to be my turn next. She doesn't know what I have been through, only that I have had one m/c. The only thing that makes it better is that my 5 year old niece is so excited to be getting a brother/sister. I feel like I have just been kicked in the gut, another person to become pregnant before me. It's just not fair....

Sorry to put a dampner on the new month page...

[scarypinkfairy]

coco1411 love your avatar. are your kitties ragdolls? i have one and he is the noisiest thing ever! i also have 2 moggies and 2 doggies lol

Looppylouie i know how you feel. one of my friends is pregnant and she is due the day i would have been. she is in a really bad relationship and didn't even want to keep the baby. i'm sure it will be your turn soon

craftymummy9 thanks for thinking of me. i have to go back to hospital next friday for another ultrasound, so will know more then. just want to get my cycle back. 2 weeks of bleeding now, so i've just about had enough

[coco1411]

Hey Looopie I know how you feel!! I HATED the next person to tell me they were pregnant, espiecially when they werent really trying.

SPFairy! Thanks! Yeah they are Ragdolls, Coco is a blue point and she talks AAAAAALL the time, it's like she will have a conversation with you hehe And max is a white lynx ragdoll and he sounds like he is struggling when he meows hehe its like a grunt but in a high pitch girly voice haha and he is a little fatty. 5.4kg's and he is only 18 months, and coco is 4.3kg's and she is 4 years in nov

[Loubee]

Hi ladies,

Hope you don't mind if I quietly join in this thread - wasn't sure whether to go back to ttc 1-6 months or here. I had a missed m/c that was picked up on u/s . I was 8 weeks exactly but bubs was only 6w2d, with no heartbeat. Luckily I got into the hossy right away and had a D&C the same day (Sept 29) Since then, the bleeding has been really light, watery and sometimes mucousy (sorry tmi). I haven't had any follow up appt as DH works at the hossy and sees the surgeon I had regularly so he relays any concerns that I have. Emotionally, I had a bit of a meltdown 3 days post op and again at the start of this week.

Now though, I feel great so as soon as this stooopid bleeding stops we will be jumping right back on the horse, so to speak!

I look forward to getting to know you all and hope that everyone gets their sticky bundles!!

[murraycod]

Loubee I'm so sorry for your loss my darling, sad but welcome to this thread, great bunch of girls and such wonderfull support and guidance. Thankyou for joining in, and your journey is just as impotrant as ours, so don't be shy we are all here for you.
This forum has been a god send to me. I hope you get your healthy sticky bundle of joy again soon.

Loopylouie I'm sorry you have stressfull news to share, I pray that now you have had a "Wax and Shine" the Clomid will work a trick for you and you will share happy news back to your Sis X And you can have a journey together, or pretty close to it.
Everything will be ok. We can all relate one way or anoth, HUGGS XX

Ferrals think happy thaughts not long to go, my darling you have been so patient at waiting this far, please don't give up hope on your IVF journey just yet. As my DH stresses to me.....one cycle at a time..........I know it's hard to bear, but stay with it, your just about to go through a ride of a life time and you will need all of the happy thaughts you can find. We are all here for you and will support you no matter how hard it's gunna get. So back straight, get ready to harvest a Sh*@tload of eggies and be happy and bloatetd!!!!!!!!!!!!! XX

Sunbeam sounds like you have found a great FS! Congrats on the news, sorry abt next cycle, but welcome to the IUI life!!!!!X I think I'm getting to the end of mine. But I hope it works for you X

Coco thank you for posting such a heartwarming poem. My EDD is in two weeks and I know how youre feeling right now. This truly sucks babe

Maddison Yay We Have A HeartBeat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for dropping in to let us know how you are going. Such wonderfull news, and great to hear that you feel different this time.

Ric how are you feeling ATM?? Do you feel any signs of AF showing up yet?? The endometrium needs to thicken up before it can shed again, so perhaps the days you bled were a slight AF...?? Hope time will tell. Getting close to the 11th 12th now hun.
Sorry to hear your GP wasn't very helpfull.

Eliselouise I understand you going through a quiet time. I dio to when I get AF, and then show up when I'm a crazed lunatic waiting for test time. I will drop you a hello if we don't hear from you, so you know I'm thinking of you XX Completely understand how you feelin though XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Craftymummy this is an official TMI WARNING!!!!!!!!!!!
My first AF after MC was dark Brown and still clotty at times. Very uneven flow. Day on day off. Longest AF I had. Would stop for a day, then back to brown, then a clot......was awfull.
My FS told me to throw my OPK's away. She hates them. But some girls swear by them. I Hear Clear Blue to be a popular buy. Let us know how you go if you decide to get them. Good luck with it! X

SPFairy 2 weeks bleeding must be taking it's toll. X I hope it stops soon for you. Thats such a long time.

Snugglybean I'm hear'n ya with the sarcasm babe!!! We living in a big fat pregnant convention. Big Fat Fat one!
I'm with you!!!!

I just want to thank everyone for their kind words after my "Chemist Incident" the other day X Made me feel much better to know I have a great bunch of girls who actually care how I feel X Haven't seen her since, won't go out of my way to either......the cow

Anyways, I had my day10 ultrasound yesterday, mixed results so not that excited. I have 5 follies all at 10mm, They only like 1 or 2 at 20mm. Which means more Puregon inj for me, and another ultrasound on Monday morning. Scary thing is if all follies keep growing to size, my cycle will be cancelled. Not fair. I can't even bloody get one to fertilise and theyre worried about me having 5 fertiloised at one time!!!!!!!!!.....what a joke. Well as Dh said, if the cycle gets cancelled, wont stop us BDing like mad
Hopefully a couple stop growing and I just get a couple BIG FAT juicy ones on Monday. So will just have to wait............not that I wait for much........till monday for the news.

Hi to everyone, hope all is well XXXXXX
Don't like to miss people but theres a heap of us here now, get some BFP's happening I say, If we get one we all might catch the boat too!!!!!!!!!!

[Matthew's Mum]

Hello to everyone,Craftymummy-I've seen the ovulation kits at the supermarkets as well they might be a bit cheaper than the chemist...Loopylouie-hope your feeling better today...Scarypinkfairy-good luck for your next ultrasound...Loubee-sorry about your loss,hope your bleeding stops soon so you can ttc soon.

[Matthew's Mum]

murraycod-Wishing you luck for Monday.

[craftymummy9]

Hi Ladies

Just been catching up with the posts, thanks for your info Murraycod seems thats what im getting at the moment didn't think about it having to thicken up again to grow another bub, after so many kids too

Hi loubee I sent you a message on the other thread you were on this morning so glad you joined us on this one its a great place to let off some steam and get some response from people who really care and know how your feeling !

AFM I had a email from my good friend in the UK I only emigrated here in WA in Jan this year so I have no freinds here but keep in touch with a special friend I only met in the UK when I was expecting my last bub May 08, Anyhow she was a great help to me when I MC and sent me flowers and lots of support through email, Well seems she is pregnant and must have known all the time I was having my MC and didn't know how to tell me,
Anyhow I am so pleased for her but cried my eyes out when I read the email this morning JUST SEEMS EVERYONE I KNOW IS EXPECTING MY HALF SISTER AND MY BROTHERS GIRLFRIEND,

Guess I just gotta pick myself up and get on the best I can !

God it hurts when you hear of someone getting a BFP when they are so close to you,

Not you girls on here we all need to keep each other going and I will be happy for everyone of you ladies who get a BFP because we really really tried hard !

[Loubee]

Hi Crafty - I saw your reply and that you are in WA...whereabouts? We came over here from the UK in March 07, like you, no family so I have been really happy to have found BB.
Thanks everyone for the nice welcome - great to have a support network again.

[craftymummy9]

Hi Loubee

So glad you joined this forum seems we have more in common.
We are in Atwell 20 mins south of Perth city Cockburn central is our nearest shopping centre.
I love living here in OZ but its so hard when you know so few people and then you end up having a MC makes you feel so alone, I am trying really hard to stay positive and this forum has been such a help to me the last 6 wks since I joined,
Hope it will do the same for you as its still early days for you, it does get easier with time, but I do find I still have bad days and can't stop crying about what could have been.
Try to take my mind off it by doing knitting or scrapbooking anything to keep me from thinking about what IVe lost,

Take care

[Loubee]

Crafty, we are in Rockingham...so not far. I do crafts as well, sewing, knitting, crochet, glass beadmaking, painting etc etc...I found it had really helped to take my mind off of things. As you said, there are good and bad days....we also have no family here. PM me and maybe we can meet up sometime....

[Looppylouie]

Thanks to Matthew's Mum, murraycod, coco and scarypinkfairy for the kind words. I feel better now that it has sunk in. As you know the support from this forum is wonderful cause we are all in a similar boat.

If everything goes to plan (and it doesnt for me!) my next O will be in 8 days time. I'm thinking about it but can't stress hubby as when he's pressured he cant DTD. I've only warned him that he can expect to get a bit every second day/night for a while..... needless to say he's happy!! Sorry too much info!

Spreading your way

[snugglybean]

Oh hi ladies! I'm confused as pants right now...

My temps are all over the shop. FF has even decided to move my O day from CD16 to CD27. Highly unlikely.
Looking at the chart, I pick CD 17 as O day.
I'm currently up to CD32, which is not unheard of for me to have a 32 day cycle.
BUT if I O'd on CD17, which I'm sure I did, it puts me at 15DPO, which is very unheard of.
Have been expecting AF since Wednesday, no sign.
This morning I cracked, climbed on a chair, slashed open the "baby box" with all things pregnancy related, and got a POAS out. bfn.
Later this morning, I felt a familiar unease in my tummy.
We weren't trying, in fact hardly BD'd at all this cycle as we've hardly seen each other.

Went for a regular hcg follow up test yesterday arvo - but results won't be in until Monday!

WHAT is going ON? Possibly molar growing back, possibly pg again, don't know, trying not to think of it til Monday, but losing the plot!

Have to get a chest x-ray this week, but I don't want to until I know what is going on! Also, am guest speaking at an event, have to prepare what I'm going to say, and am really struggling with it!

Arghhhhh!