Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage/Loss - October 2009

[~mummyof4~]

Murraycod, i hope that af stays away... i really hope that this month is your month! we need some good news around here!!!

[Matthew's Mum]

Morning everyone,Emmy-Hope all goes well with the investigations,my fs is going to do some on me if not utd this cycle or next....Snugglebean-congratulations on the weight loss...Craftymummy-hope your feeling better today,don't need any headaches for bd'ing time....Twinsister-hope af stays away...Eliselouise-Were all prone to our meltdowns i think;it seems to be part of this very emotional journey...Hosebeastess & Madison-Thanks for your positive posts...Ferrals-Hope your feeling a bit better,i to try to keep up a sense of normalacy for my other children,it hard though,when they catch me crying i tell them i'm sad about Matthew dying but happy they are here .(read a really sad story about a little boy telling someone that mummy & daddy aren't happy because they dont want a little boy they only want a newborn baby).Loss is devastating to the whole family isn't it...Scarypinkfairy-That's great that you can start ttc soon...Murraycod-Good luck for Wednesday,hope those horrible cramps subside,and you see that elusive 2nd line...Bookworm-How are you?...Mummyof4-Good to hear your 2 year old is home,it must of been frightening for you all,i know when my ds4 got sick after my loss,i prayed please don't take another one away from me.Sorry af turned up...

[Twin Sister]

Where are all our BFPs! We are definitely due for at least a few (hopefully more).

Hosebeastess - Congrats on your pregnancy, that's fantastic news. Hopefully the rest of us will be able to join you really soon!

eliselouise - Aw hugs to you. Seems to be the week-end for melt-downs, I totally had one too. Good luck with your weight loss plan. Hope you get to spend a nice week-end with DB (You're going to laugh at me. I'm used to seeing "DH" or "DP" and for a sec I couldn't figure out what "DB" stood for. Then I thought, oh of course "darling brother". As I kept reading I realized you wouldn't be snugging your brother all night and I realized it meant meant Boyfriend. Ha ha Whoops

ferrals - ugh poor you! You are just surrounded by pregnant people without tact! 19weeks? Why'd she wait so long to tell you? And in a text no less. Nice! She could have told you a bit better. As for starting off the BFPs', Thursday seems to be the day of testing, and I'm really hoping to hear some good news. I'm also hoping to jump on the good news bandwagon on the week-end.

SPF - I'm so glad the bleeding has stopped. On to the next phase of waiting. Come on AF.

Murraycod - Wow what a roller coaster. I really really hope the cramps are just your uterus stretching and growing. I really hope this time worked and you will be getting your BFP on Thursday. Fingers and toes crossed. Come on, be the one to start our string of BFPs!

~mummyof4~ - I'm so sorry to hear your DD got sick. I hope she is feeling better really soon. How nice of AF to show up as the icing on your cake. What bad timing. Sorry hun.

Hi to everyone else I've missed.

Afm - just waiting impatiently for next week-end to come so I can know what's up. I have a lot of symptoms right now that could go either way so of course I'm over-analyzing everything. I just want my ticket to the pregnancy convention so badly.

I had an interesting conversation with this girl I met yesterday. She has a 19 month old son, and she said it took her 8 years and finally IVF to conceive him! She said she got so tired of living in 28 day cycles, it was a relief to have no idea where she was in her cycle. It was so funny to think of it like that. I totally live in 25 day cycles, and at any given time I can tell you exactly where I am in that cycle too. It'd be so nice to be counting the days in our pregnancies instead of days in our TTC cycles.

[murraycod]

Well the cramps were the bad one's girls. Got the better of me and I POAS first thing thismorn, and as I was starring at the stick sitting on the loo, I began to bleed. Of course I got a BFN.
I have no uplifting comments about dusting myself off or positive thaughts about the long IVF journey we will go throug in January, I just feel devastated and I'm not a mum.

[~mummyof4~]

oh murraycod i am sorry you did not get the result you are after
HUGS

[ferrals4]

Murrycod-I am soooooooooooooo sorry hun AF is a biaaaatch!!!!! so what now just try the natural way until you start the ivf road i was hopeing you wouldnt have to go there.

Twinsister-got my fingers crossed for you someone has to change our luck in this thread.

Hello to all you lovely ladies i have not mentioned i am off to work be back at midnight.

AFM-3 days until AF is supose to turn up and then the dreaded BT that will be the no go or the green light oh my god i hate this please please please let me have at least one go at pgd ivf please please.

[eliselouise85]

aww murraycod hun, so sorry af showed up. Hope you are feeling ok and hopefully you can get a BFP naturally and dont have to go through IVF
Twinsis you had me at your comment about darling brother, must have seemed odd reading that i was snuggling up to him all night hahahaha
mummyof4 hope your dd is ok. Sorry that af showed up, shes so rude showing up unannounced.
SPF that must be hard your mum living so far away, mines only 45 mins away and i still dont see her as much as id like, there always good to ring for a good ol cry though
Hello to everyone else ive missed.
Ive just got out of bed (night shift this week) and just waiting for my sister and her 6 month old bub to turn up. Cant wait for lots of cuddles and im not going to let him go the whole time haha
Talk soon

[Matthew's Mum]

Murraycod-I'm so sorry af turned up,it's not fair!!!You gave iui your best shot,let's go to the next step,you've still got ivf,this is not the end of your ttc journey,we'll all beat this together,but for now cry as much as you need to,hope dh is home soon for some hugs.i'll ,like everybody else on this thread will be thinking of you,hugs,Hugs & more hugs

[craftymummy9]

Hi everyone
Just took me best part of an hour to get through all the threads I had missed the last few days ! soooo many people on here its just not fair for us all to be here !
Murraycod I am so sorry its not to be this month I really thought you done it with the IUI after the rollercoaster ride last month you surely did deserve it, cry as much as you need too and then get those positive thoughts back its not over yet just don't give up we are all behind you sending our positive vibes !
Matthews mum and bookworm its down to you now we need some good news on here. Twin sister your on the TWW so goodluck with you too,
maddison and hosebeastess CONGRATULATIONS on you BFPs and your ongoing bubs its so nice to know people can move off this thread eventually ! how long were you TTC after mc ?
Eliselouise85 so sorry you hit a bad patch it happens to us all but your on the way to o so need to think positive and get some good seems we will be on the TWW together this time if my stiks tell me I have O that is !
everyone else I have forgotten hope you are all well and still getting on with this cycle business its doing my head in wondering what day it is ! just not fair is it ladies !

AFM thanks for all your concern I am much better today 5 days of it and was ready to chuck the vitex down the toilet but was so scared I wouldn't O again so carried on pooping the pils and looking on the web for side effects and so on. Anyhow seems taking vitex can give you dizzy spells and bad headaches and nausea until your body gets used to it and taking pronatal as well didn't help so I have stopped the pronatal and just take folic acid as well as the vitex and today for the first time NO HEADACHE ! well so far anyways so will see how I go I have to do a opk today and will do around 3pm as someone suggested so will see how I go as its day 11 for me !

Anyhow will pop in later to see whats happening in here Bye for now !

[snugglybean]

Awwwww..... murraycod that sucks sucks sucks sucks sucks. So that's it for your IUI journey, huh? How are you feeling about the next stage?

AFM finally hit dentist today. All 4 wisdom teeth must go! He reckons he can get it done before year's end though, so hooray!

[coco1411]

Afternoon everyone

I am in the TWW too, I think I am 6dpo...if not then I am 7 or 5dpo. Somewhere about there anyhow hehe

Murraycod, so sorry to hear! I too thought it was the month! Hope that you're ok xxx

Everyone else, so sorry for no personals, love you all and hope you're all well! Anybody doing a TWW list?

Eliza

[murraycod]

Okay, well Iv'e had my HissyFit, couple panadol, nana nap on the couch and some chocolate, feeling a lot better, esp after reading such lovely posts from everyone

Made a phonecall to the natropath I was seeing last year, and he is working out a plan for me for the next couple months, and Iv'e also made an appt to Accupuncurist to get my cycle back on track, because I would have completely no idea girls, how long my natural cycle will be or when I will 'o' naturally, since my body has ben stimmed for the past 3 months.

I know this seems like a lot of things for me to be doing today, but I just need to feel like I am doing 'something', since no more needles and scans to count down too.
Usually as soon as I get AF, I only have 4 sleeps then back on the injections, so this month will be very different for Dh and I.
Sounds weird but I think I will miss doing the IUI treatment, but on the other hand I think a psychological and physical break will do me good!

Might go and have a shower, put some decent clothes on cuz I look like I'm homeless right now, get stuck into the make up and have a couple glasses of wine, day off tomorrow.

Snugglybean I am much more confident that the IVF will work, but sooo long between now and January. Will you get all 4 wisdom teeth taken out in the chair?? Too brave!!! Hope they got plenty of happygas for you!

Crafty thanks for the PM Goodluck with the opk's and glad youre feeling better X

Coco best wishes this is your month babe X

Matthew'sMum, Twinsis, Mummyof4 thanks for the support you have shown X You are all such lovely ladies X
Mumof4 hope that DD is feeling ok X

Eliselouise hope you enjoy time with sis today, thank you for your words X

FERRALS my darling !!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG it's November already for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!
All of your hard work will be so worth it, I'm praying your BT gives you the green light. I will be glued to your every post to learn what you are doing!X
It will be you and I against the IVF world!! (just praying you are already UTD when I start though!)

I love you girls X

[PumpkinZulu]

Hello all, just wondering if I could quietly sneak in with you? I am currently going through my third miscarriage in eight months. I have been posting mainly in the TTC 1-6 months thread, but after this third miscarriage, I would like to start posting here, if you'll have me

A bit of a backstory, I am 19, DF is 19 in december. As of yet, we've had no testing to find out the cause for all our m/c, although with the first an emergency d&c was required, and the complications from that resulted in me getting PID, which left some minor scarring. We both want to continue TTC naturally. We cop a lot of cynicism from people about our age, but before TTC, I had this yearning to have children, and now that I have experienced how difficult that can be, I'm glad I'm doing everything I can before I get older. My biggest fear is that I'll never be able to carry to term

Although I'm still bleeding from the m/c, my doctor says that we are good to TTC again once it stops, although we'll probably be dedicating this month to looking further into our health and finding some answers about the reason i've been miscarrying.

Again, hope you'll have me lol

Xx

[murraycod]

Pumpkin welcome and I am so so sorry for what you are going through, RIP little Angels X
You are so most welcome here, I have never met such a wonderfull bunch of truly friendly girls ever, and I am so proud to be posting in this part of the forums and I'm sure you will make great friendships here too X

[Matthew's Mum]

Hi everyone,Murraycod-Seeing a natropath & acupuncturist is a great thing for you to do,you never know ,might get a sneaky natural bfp.A couple of wines sounds like a good idea too...Pumpkin zula-Sorry for your losses,hope the bleeding stops soon,don't worry about the cynicism,i'm twice your age and i think it takes more than age to be a good Mum.Maybe talk to your doc about some testing.some are just basic blood tests.Hope your ttc again journey is a short one.

[Emmy83]

Welcome PumpkinZulu. I am so sorry to hear about youe m/c's. Hope you find this thread as kind and supportive as I do.

murraycod so sorry to hear stupid AF arrived. I was sure this month was your month.

Hello to everyone else.

[scarypinkfairy]

mummy of 4 hope you and your dd is ok, and sorry to hear af turned up. could not have been at a worse time for you being at the hospital.

Twin Sister i can agree with that, i always know exactly where i am in my cycle. have been charting since jan so have been doing it for a while just out of sync at the moment but hoping to get back on track soon.

murraycod so sorry iui didn't work for you this time. could you not try naturally till you have to do ivf? (sorry not sure of your reasons for iui)

ferrals4 i will be thinking of you on friday

craftymummy9 sounds like you have worked out what was causing your dizzy spells. glad you don't have any more headaches

PumpkinZulu sorry for your losses that must have been really hard on you. i think you should possibly look at genetic testing for you and df as there may be a reason for your recurrent miscarriage. i think after having 3 maybe you should do some investigations, maybe have a chat to your doctor. i think the group of girls on here are really nice and it helps knowing we have all been through the same thing.

afm the bleeding came back this arvo. i had nothing at all for 2 days so why would it just start up again? now it's gone over the 14 days that they said it would stop. i'm getting really confused by it all, and annoyed with myself and my body for not behaving

[Hosebeastess]

Craftymummy9, I was TTC for over a year after my first two angels (while overjoyed they did, I was not TTC when they showed up, and supremely devestated when they left) which resulted in my gorgeous DD. My two most recent angels were 1st cycle TTC, and this time took about 5 months. I know that may seem like no time at all to some of you, but I am sure you all understand how upsetting even that amount of time is. The fact that the only one before this that took any time to show up was the only previous sticky one gives me hope this one will be sticky too.

To all of you who have recieved bad news, I am so very sorry to hear it. Please don't ever give up hope.

And to all who have offered me congratulations, thanks .