They break your heart sometimes..:(

[Butterfly Child]

Sorry in advance if this is long but i really need some advise about my 'lovely' teenage sister

My sister who is 16 has been living out of home for about 8 or more months now..
She left home and started living with her boyfriend(and his mum and sister) just before i gave birth to DD(Lovely right, what a sister) she was pretty much living with her bf anyway hardly ever home etc.

but it has really put alot of strain on our family and has been causing my mum alot of grief which she really doesnt need. My sister is now getting living away from home allowance which she got by telling centrelink and social security that she couldnt live at home anymore making up total lies to recieve it and blaming mum when the only reason she was moving out was to be with her bf.
Even throughout this mum has always reminded her the doors are always open that shes welcome back anytime just under my parents rules etc which i think is fair enough..

Im just finding it hard now ive been trying not to think about the whole thing as ive had enough to deal with lately. trying to shut it out from my mind really but i thought id get it all out now as i can feel it resurfacing.

We use to be best friends not just sisters we use to do everything together . people use to say they were jealous of the relationship we use to have their was not a thought or word not shared with one another....Now were nothing but strangers.. its so sad ive lost my sister and my best friend ( i thought after i had dd that things would get better between us becuase i was sharing such a special time with her iykwim but it didnt)

A few months ago she was having issues with her bf and 'moved back' well it didnt last long not even a week. everyone at home was so excited to have her back and went out of their way to make sure she was happy but my other little sister who is 11 gave up her good bed for a crappy single bed just so she would come back but she only stayed a few nights and then left. when she was here she treated everyone like dirt wouldnt help clean up after herself just stayed in her room.

She wont tell us whats going on , we've all tried

We hear pretty much how shes going and whats happening to her through facebook

Apparently' shes not with her bf now but is living with his mum n sister who is one of her gd friends..
She wrote as her status last nite " Cant stand this place anymore, anyone wana move out with me?" my mum wrote under it you know ur always welcome home it may not be the coolest place but its a place where everybody loves you unconditionally" she still hasnt responded... my poor mum

im so angry at my sister for doing this to my family and to me.. but more sad than anything. sometimes i feel like it was my fault that she left that maby the stress of my issues at home and the house being to crowded with me n gracie i dont no

im sorry again that this is so long but i really needed to get this out
if youve read this far you deserve a medal(sp?)

[TeniBear]

I think you need a hug so here's one

Sounds like your family's doing the right thing - teenagers can be so tough to deal with and you seem to be handling it better than most other families would do... Just be patient and I'm sure she'll find her way. Keep trying to stay in touch, if for nothing else than she can't turn around and say that she feels abandoned later on.

Hope it all works out for you

[misty]

That sounds like one of my sisters at that age, only to comlicate things more she fell pg with he bf's baby.

huggs. there is not much you can do, just be there when your sis does decide to grow up. And I promise, she will grow up eventually.

[Ammaki]

[Butterfly Child]

thx for ur replies

My mum just rung my sister as she was worried about her because of some of her status's on fb and she tells mum that centrelink are paying $300 a WEEK! FOR HER RENT!! i cant believe her,my mum is so upset as god no's wat she has told them to get that how can centrelink do that!! its ludacris

[**Sunshine**]

I used to be the same as your sister. It did take some time for me to realise what I had at home.
Maybe you could call centrelink and let them know where things stand at home.

[mrsmac]

DD moved in with her grandfather (my dad) for about 6 months when she was 16 cause she couldn't stand being at home but eventually she realised that we do love her and that home was where she wanted to be so she came back. Hopefully your sister just needs to get it out of her system and will come home eventually.

[Jessey]

Well first of all

Second, i don't know if its the same in NSW but in QLD if you want living away from home allowance you need your parents to sign a form saying you aren't welcome at home or its not suitable for you to be living at home...
So if your mum hasn't signed anything i'd be looking up or calling them

Hopefully she'll snap out of the evil teenager phase soon

[Butterfly Child]

Thx so much hunny
from what ive heard My sister is recieving 300 for rent where she lives with her bf's mum and sister the thing is the whole rent for there place is $400 (so the mothers only paying 100 herself) so really My sister's bf 's mother is totally exploiting my sister as well as the govt..
I think mum is going to ring centrlink as its just plain WRONG! as for my sister i dont where her brain has gotten too ..

Mum has never had to sign anything in the past since this has happened we only found out about the payment she was recieving from her .

[leesa]

I feel so sorry for you all, and your mum especially - she must feel so helpless!

Is your sister going to school or working??

P.S - I wish Centrelink would give me money for rent lol!!

*Hugs* hun.

[Butterfly Child]

Thx leesa xx

Thats one positive thing she is still in school anddoing really well.. mums still paying her $3000 school fees this year. i bet ctrlink didnt no that hay

p.s i wish id get 300 a week too its ridiculous they can do that

Jessey- (totally off topic but)i forgot to metion i absolutly love love you dd name
its my favourite name, if i have another bubba girl its going to be Lila(diff spelling)
Lila Jane , and of course grace being my dd name

[Jessey]

Thanks (we went with Lyla cos DF found it easiest to spell lol)