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March 30th, 2009, 07:29 PM
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I've been thinking about posting this for a few days now but I haven't because I've been worried about whether it would be inappropriate and I don't want to upset anyone.
But I think I'm ready to start thinking about getting my baby girl a headstone and I would like help to find the perfect thing to put on it. I've been thinking of something like the following,
I think I'm set on the beginning unless someone has another suggestion
"In loving memory of
Isabel Ann ......
14/2/2009
Not sure if we should have the date like that or like
"14th Febuary 2009"
It's the next part that I'm having the most trouble with I've been thinking of either of the following
"Much loved daughter of Luke and Kylie
and sister to a miscarried twin.
Forever in our hearts"
or
"Much loved daughter of Luke and Kylie.
And
Her/Isabel's Twin
2008
Forever in our hearts."
I'm not sure about loved because it's past tense but I still love her, and I would like to mention her twin but I don't want to take away from Isabel it is her headstone after all.
I'm not sure but very open to any other suggestion because I feel that if I can't look after her in life then I want to look after her in death and this will be a standing memorial to her forever so I want it to be absolutly perfect.
Please any suggestion would be more than appreciated.
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March 30th, 2009, 07:36 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss ... I have no experiance in this but what about writing it special for her
Isabel Ann ....
14 February 2009
We will love you, always
Mommy, Daddy and angel (insert her twin's name)
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March 30th, 2009, 07:41 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss.
I have no experience with this, but felt I couldn't leave your post without replying.
Hope I do not offend.
Maybe something like this: In loving memory of
Isabel Ann
14th February 2009
Much loved daughter of Luke and Kylie
Now playing in heaven with her twin
Playing forever in our hearts. 
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March 30th, 2009, 08:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Marlene  I am so sorry for your loss.
I have no experience with this, but felt I couldn't leave your post without replying.
Hope I do not offend.
Maybe something like this: In loving memory of
Isabel Ann
14th February 2009
Much loved daughter of Luke and Kylie
Now playing in heaven with her twin
Playing forever in our hearts. | I'm so sorry for your loss.
I love what Marlene has put in about playing with her twin. That is very precious. The only thing I would say differently is 'beloved' instead of 'much loved'.
Big hugs for you
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March 30th, 2009, 08:17 PM
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Hi KAM... I am very sorry for your losses. It is a very special thing you are doing for your angels.. I like Marlenes suggestion too- and to piggy back on it maybe something like this... In Loving Memory
of
Isabel Ann
14th February 2009
Precious Daughter of Luke and Kylie
Now playing in Heaven with her Twin
Taken From this Earth too Soon
Always Loved and Forever Missed
It is so hard to find the right words to describe how you feel- take your time and find what feels right for you xoxoxo Take care SB
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March 30th, 2009, 08:23 PM
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Originally Posted by ~StarBright~ Hi KAM... I am very sorry for your losses. It is a very special thing you are doing for your angels.. I like Marlenes suggestion too- and to piggy back on it maybe something like this... In Loving Memory
of
Isabel Ann
14th February 2009
Precious Daughter of Luke and Kylie
Now playing in Heaven with her Twin
Taken From this Earth too Soon
Always Loved and Forever Missed
It is so hard to find the right words to describe how you feel- take your time and find what feels right for you xoxoxo Take care SB | so sorry for your loss, i like the way this is worded.
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March 30th, 2009, 08:36 PM
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KAM, I am so very sorry for the loss of your babies.
I really like what you have written in your OP. I don't think it is a bad thing to mention her twin on her headstone - I don't think it takes anything away from her.
Your words are lovely.
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June 7th, 2009, 07:50 PM
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Ok so we may have come close to settling on something but because they don't use punctuation I'm a little worried it may sound fragmented or something, so your honest opinions. What do you think? In loving memory of
Isabel Ann
14th February 2009
Much loved daughter of Luke and Kylie
Always in our hearts and minds with your twin
Forever loved forever missed |
June 8th, 2009, 04:43 PM
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I like it ... I'll maybe just make that second forever a Forever. With a capital.
But otherwise it's really beautifull 
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June 9th, 2009, 08:28 PM
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I really like it as well. I don't think it sounds fragmented at all, it's really lovely.
A beautiful way to honour your twins.
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June 9th, 2009, 08:40 PM
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I am so sorry for you loss.
I think it would be nice to include Isabel's twin on the headstone - I don't think it takes away from her, her twin is apart of who she is and the journey of how she came to be.
I hope that you can find the perfect wording for Isabel's headstone. |
June 9th, 2009, 08:52 PM
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Hi hun, I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful twins. What you have written is really beautiful. My suggestion would be :
In loving memory of
Isabel Ann
14 February 2009
Much loved daughter of Luke and Kylie
Forever in our hearts and thoughts
Forever with her twin
We will always love you and miss you
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June 9th, 2009, 09:11 PM
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Such beautiful and loving care you are giving to your babies...
I really loved Starbrights version - | |
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