Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 2008

[Sharon19270]

Meredith WOW what fantastic news, would have been a shock though.
Leyla like shoegal said some babies don't engage until the start of labour, obviously your bubs knows that it's not time to come out yet so he's still partying atm. You are not a failure, you (and your body) have got bubs this far and knows when the time will be right. :hugs:
satya I love watching Oliver squirm around, a friend of mine saw my stomach move the other day (she was probably about 2 metres away) and was shocked she could see it.

Not much happening with me, slept a little better last night, just hope I can sleep just as good tonight.

[belfie]

hi everyone - it's time for my mega-post!

Meredith - congratulations! That is so exciting All the best for a H&H PG! Also, saw you're in Coburg - if m/s gets you at all, I had acupuncture in Balwyn (ok it's not that close, but same city at least...). Anyway I found it really helped me (and my friend who had done IVF used the same one, and my obs said she's reputable)... happy to PM the contact details if you want.

satya - you're a mind reader, I so need a new bra, the girls are huge already - I'm petrified of how big they're gonna get!

Leyla, Shoegal, Sharon - I'm just in awe of your tickers! Don't have much else to add, but so SO exciting to see and hear about your journey.

Beaksie - meant to say g'day & congrats earlier. Know what you mean about feeling really crappy, hope it's going ok for you. I also get a lot of discomfort digestion-wise when I'm PG.

Hopingsoon - thinking of you and your precious picture

Miramar - I haven't heard of the syndrome that you mentioned but I really hope all goes well for you.

kaib - hope you're sleeping better, and thanks for the warning on the scan! It's such a shame when something that doesn't have to be that unpleasant turns out to be!

Sam - how did it go telling your boss? You must be looking forward to next week!

Sorry if I missed anyone, I backtracked a fair bit heheh.

I'm going well... been allowed back at work for 3 days this week (only 1 day working at home) and life is finally starting to feel a bit more normal again. Feeling fatter by the day after ~5 weeks of inactivity, so I'm desperately in need of shopping! My obs said 2 weeks ago that once i was 12 weeks I should be able to get back to normal (as opposed to the severely reduced activity I've been on). Plus I'm showing waaaay too early (which makes me feel like a bit of a fraud) but I think that's just me (digestive issues & all!). People have started to comment how much I'm showing, and I'm not even 12 weeks yet!! By the end of the day I look sooooo PG... at least it's easy to get a seat on the train haha!

I have my 12 week NT scan tomorrow at 10am . The scan will also check on cyst on the umbilical cord. So please cross yours fingers, arms, legs and toes for us! We're really hoping the cyst has just gone and the umbilical cord is all normal, and of course the NT risk is low! And then... I can act like a normal PG person (what is that really!?!?!?)... would so love to be able to go for a walk, go shopping...etc etc! I'm 90% excited... and 10% scared (but pretending I'm not).

Cheers,
Belfie

[MeredithD]

Leyla - I am sure bubs will engage, even if not till the last minute. Its hard, but try and trust your baby and body to do what comes naturally. You've nutured him this far, not long to go now!

satya - oooh the moving tummy. Its so great eh? I could have sat for ages just watching DS wriggling around.

Belfie - Is the acupuncturist you've seen is Alice Gao? Cos I've been seeing her since before DS concieved 2yrs ago! Seeing her weekly atm to help prevent m/c and also taking some of her disgusting herbs. Not to fussed with treatment for m/s. May sound strange but I welcome the nausea as a good reminder of pregnancy.
best of luck with your scan tomorrow. Hopefully all is well and you will be back on your feet in no time.
As for showing, I'm only 6w and I think I am showing a little already. We don't want to tell anyone until 12w but might be very hard to hide with two in there!

[belfie]

Hey Meredith,

You're spot on, it is Alice Gao, and yes I also took some of her foul herbs too!

And yes, it might be tricky trying to hide that bump with 2 in there!
Hmm can't seem to get to sleep yet... funny that.

Cheers,
Belfie

[hopingsoon]

Belfie I hope everything goes well with your scan.

Meredith I have 14 month old twins now and they are great. It's great to watch them play together and get up to mischief.

Since having my scan less than a week ago I am back to thinking everything is going wrong. I haven't had any further spotting but where I used to wake up at night to go to the bathroom I don't do that anymore so now I think my symptoms have all disappeared. Has anyone ever hired a doppler to listen to the heartbeat at home. I hired one last time and it helped me a lot but I was wondering if anyone knows if you can hear the heartbeat earlier with your second pregnancy.

[Sequoia]

Leyla - your post made ME cry! Bloody hormones. I even cried watching Sunrise this morning, *sigh*.

BekZ - nice to hear from you! I hope Loren is going well.

Sharon - hope you had a nice sleep.

Belfie - glad to hear you are back at work, best of luck with your NT scan today! Will be thinking of you.

Hopingsoon - no, I'm sorry I don't know about hearing the HB earlier with a second pregnancy. I hope your mind is eased soon.

Me - Well, this may be my last post for a while. Going to Perth tomorrow (just about to start packing!) and internet access is limited.

Hope to see you all on the other side!!

SG
xo

[belfie]

YAY YAY YAY YAY!

Scan all good! Cyst has gone. Risk of Downs is very low! And bubs was dancing around like a little jumping bean!!!!!!
164, length 5.6cm. And... JUST.... SO.... AWESOME!!!!
AND I can now get back to normal activity again. YAY!!




*floats off to dwell on cloud 9 for a bit*
Belfie
P.S. had my first official hurl this morning - when a cough suddenly "turned". Hopefully first and last!

[kiwigirl]

belfie that is fantastic news - couldn't ask for more! yay!!

satya can't wait to experience seeing baby moving around. i can feel his wriggling now as well as really strong kicks which is awesome.

Hi everyone else, loving reading your updates on successful pregnancies

The last few days I have been in a flood of tears over any little thing - a comment someone makes, a chore that doesn't get done, a stupid mistake I make. Nothing major is wrong but I feel on the verge of tears a lot and it's frustrating. Other than that, I'm doing well. Next appointment in a week's time.

[satya]

Hi all,

Hopingsoon - don't worry about lack of symptoms, from about 6 weeks to around 12 I had very few and was sure that there'd be nothing in there when I had the scan done (even though I'd had an earlier one and they got a heartbeat).

Kiwigirl - I have days like that too and I hate them. My biggest trigger is that sting song "Fields of gold" - I cannot hear it without crying and I have absolutely no idea why. If I get stressed at work I burst into tears, I can barely watch the news without breaking down most nights, but managed OK tonight for some reason. Good luck with the next appointment.

Belfie - I'm glad life is feeling a bit more normal for you now. Congrats on the scan going so well. It must be a huge relief.

Meredith - I don't think you will be able to hide things for that long but you'll just have and see I guess. I'm 25 weeks tomorrow and although there's only one in there some people at my work still don't have a clue I'm pregnant due to me already having big boobs that my loose tops drape over. I'm looking forward to the day the penny drops with these people, I'll probably be ready to go on mat leave by the time they realise.

I finally remembered to call my OB today about my last scan results. I hadn't been able to get them as they had not arrived by my last appointment. Anyway the receptionist read the result out and it went somewhat like this: "a single fetus was present measuring at 22w 5d appears to be developing normally estimated due date 28th June". I nearly fell off my chair. I knew he was measuring ahead by 5 days but I didn't think this would change my due date, but apparently it does. I was supposed to be due 3rd July. When I worked my dates out on the net edd calcs I came up with 1st July (due to a shorter cycle), OB said 3rd July, all early scans said 3rd July. Not sure if I should change my ticker or not, but I don't think I will.

I've had a bit of pain in my hands over the last couple of days so I'm hoping it's not the start of carpal tunnel. Have to wait and see I guess. I've also had an upset tummy from something I've eaten this afternoon and actually thought I was going to get caught short whilst stuck in traffic on the way home from work, but thankfully made it home in time, was the most horrible feeling.

[mgm]

Hi everyone.

congrats belfie on your fantastic scan!
shoegal if you're still here, hope you have a good trip.
and all of you who are suffering from being overemotional, i remember that so well from my first pregnancy! even really bizarre things like the music they play before the TV news could set me off! I eventually stopped reading newspapers because all the bad news was too much for me.

had an enormously frustrating day, spending over two hours at the ob - one hour waiting for my appointment (fortunately they had some new toys in the waiting room for DS to play with), then 5 minutes of consultation before she decided i needed to be monitored for a while (due to having a couple of days of reduced foetal activity) - but there was someone else on the machine so I had to wait another half hour before spending a further half hour hooked up to various instruments. anyway all's OK so i'm relieved about that. unfortunately she now wants to do this every time i visit...

sleep is becoming ever more elusive as I keep waking up to wee and my numb hand is driving me crazy! plus DS is restless at night these days, maybe he's a bit anxious about the new baby arriving.

anyway gotta go put DS in the bath, make dinner and hopefully find 5 minutes to elevate my disgustingly swollen ankles!

[mako]

I just wanted to pop in and check up on all you girls who are almost at your EDD. I'm so looking forward to seeing some BA's very soon.

A huge welcome to all the newbies here too. This truly is a wonderful thread.

Just an update on us. sage is doing really well. He's 5 months old now and he's teething and rolling over all the time. He has the most gorgeous giggle too.His sleeping is all over the place atm though. He is still a little fella. Had him weighed 1.5 weeks ago and he was 5.26kgs
I'm looking forward to his 1st Easter.

Hi to you all

[Hammi]

A quick self indulgent post. Had my 19 wk scan today and it's a boy :-)

[STARRYSKY]

thats great hammi!!

[MeredithD]

Hopingsoon - 14mth old twins and a newbie on the way. Your going to be a very busy mummy too! I'm now very excited by the whole twin idea but just all the more anxious as I know how much higher risk this pg is. My u/s referral has ticks in the boxes for "high risk pregnancy" and "risk of miscarriage". Not something I need reminding of! I too had a doppler for my last pg. It was a godsend and i will certainly be using it again (we bought one). I think it is very unlikely you would hear the HB sooner in subsequent pregnancies. Still have to wait it out until 10-12weeks. Could you ask your Dr for another scan just to ease your mind?
BTW - how could you tell that you were picking up two seperate HBs with your doppler? I'd wonder if I was just hearing one bub twice

Belfie - great news re your scan. The 12w scan is just amazing isn't it. Seeing bub wriggling around in there makes it seem so much more real.

Satya - I say go with the later EDD as at least if you go late you won't feel so "overdue"

mgm - hope bubs comes soon so you won't need to many more visits to OB!

Hammi - huge congrats on having a little boy tucked away in there.

me - I'm now already attached to the idea of twins, that I'm getting really nervous about losing one or both of them. Don't really like the increased risk of m/c I now face. Am trying to relax but just want to know every day that they are ok! If I can make it through the next 4-5weeks, at least I can use the doppler at home. Bring on the next scan!

[Michelle71]

Just popping in to give a very big squishy hug to Meredith I am sooooo excited for you and although there is an increased risk, I will keep thinking the positive thoughts for a healthy pregnancy with two little bundles to take home. Now ........... if only I could manage to get pregnant too (although I think I could do without the twins but I would be happy with anything)

[satya]

mgm - that was sure a long visit at the ob's office. Hope it's not as long next time.

Hammi - congrats on it being a little boy. Have fun shopping for blue things.

Meredith - I reckon a doppler might make you stress more, what if you can hear one heartbeat and not the other? Your doc should be able to tell you how to tell the difference, but it might make you more paranoid in your situation. Lots of ladies carry twins successfully so try to keep the negative thoughts at bay and concentrate on the positive ones. Although my pregnancy is not considered a risky one it has carried a very high risk of miscarriage due to my age (41), particularly during the first tri. I just had a good feeling about this bubs from the start and kept the positive thoughts coming. Also due to my age I carry a high risk of preterm birth, so I'm now trying to think positive thoughts about keeping him cooking for as long as possible.

The pain in my hands has continued as has the pins and needles so I'm thinking this might be going to stay for the rest of the pregnancy. It's only very mild so hopefully it stays that way. I'm now starting to get much stronger movement - I feel it at work now - I never could before and at night it feels like he's playing a soccer match. We were out last night and I just couldn't get sat comfy as he was so active. Not complaining, just fascinated with the whole thing.

[hopingsoon]

Meredith I found that the heartbeats were in two different places far enough away from each other that I felt they were the two different babies. Also one heartbeat was always 1 - 2 beats slower then the other one. It may well be that it really was only the one that I was hearing but at the time it gave me peace of mind that everything was ok with them. I am 10 weeks next week so will definately be hiring another one as I am so stressed out about whether everything is ok. I go to see my ob in 3 weeks and hope he will give me another scan but I have to make it to that appointment first. For some reason I am convinced this is not going to go well. Maybe trying again straight after a miscarriage without a cycle inbetween was not a good idea.

[MeredithD]

hopingsoon - I wish I could say something to convince you your baby is going to be fine but I know no words can really do that. Maybe ring your OB and express your concerns and you might be able to go in sooner for a scan.
I totally get the worry even with no evidence anything is wrong. With DS, I was having weekly scans until about 24w due to my hx and lots of bleeding in that pg.
I would see him each week absolutely fine but by about 2 days after the scan, I was convinced something was wrong. In the end, nothing was wrong but couldn't change how I felt. The doppler was a godsend and things did improve on my anxiety level after I could use that daily (other than the odd panic when I couldn't find the HB quickly!)
That said, I am in the exact same boat now. I am beginning to fear my next scan on wed for fear one or both of the babies will not be ok. Praying both of us get a few more mths along when we can feel movement and feel a bit safer.