Great thread! Glad to see BDT proved them wrong!!!
FWIW I had been positive about the clomid, the fsh injections and the ovarian drilling. All didn't work. I dreaded IVF. I was adamant that if we had to 'resort' (that is how I saw it) to IVF then we were never going to have success. I sent back about four letters to my clinic delaying IVF month after month. Finally I resigned myself to it and got a cycle started. I remember thinking that if I could get a cycle of IVF out of the way then I could concentrate on trying naturally with herbs or whatever, since my periods has started to regulate from the ovarian drilling. I felt then everyone would get off my back about needing IVF.
I had also had my 'psychic' brother tell me I needed to be in a positive place to conceive. He said I was too blocked up inside with anger etc. I remember feeling really crappy about this since I had been feeling really positive and happy with life and love and the world about a year before this and most of those feelings had faded due to moving countries, changing jobs, family arguments etc. I thought that it would take me about a year to get back to a 'conceivable' state. I certainly was not in one when I started the IVF cycle. In fact I was so negative and down that my
DH, who disapproves of counselling etc, actually suggested I get some because he was so worried about my state of mind! He even gave me numbers and almost called the clinic's counsellor.
This cycle of IVF was our one free go on the National Health Service. I remember going to the information evening and taking especial note of the prices for self funding on subsequent cycles because I was sure it wouldn't work on one go (if any). My
DH was upset that I wasn't giving this cycle any chance. He wouldn't listen to my financial plans for future cycles etc. So not only was I negative and depressed I was also in a bad place with my marriage at that point. So altogether I guess you are sensing that there was definitely not a general sense of positivity in the air!!!
Anyway to cut a long story short. That cycle worked. I am still as nervous as hell about holding onto this baby but that is another thread and topic!! The crux of it is in all my negativity conception took place.
I am also reminded of a chat I had with a fertility nurse once when discussing the whole being positive and unstressed when trying to conceive. She related the story of women in concentration camps who were being raped repeatedly daily. She said many of them conceived and carried their babies to full term. They would have definitely have been under extreme stress and most definitely depressed and negative. As much as it is an appalling situation and I would never wish that amount of stress on anyone it did make me feel a little less worried about my emotional responsibility in the whole conception business.
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