Parenting after Loss or Miscarriage - May 2009

[Janie]

Oh Willow!!! What a totally crapola morning!!!!!! Let's look on the bright side though, all is good with Boo YAY! No rush to get back to me hun, just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you.

Hello to everyone else! It's weird when you haven't been posting for awhile, I need to find my feet again. DH works on the computer so much these days, I don't get much of a chance to log on and post. Often it's so late that all I can do is read, posting seems too much when I'm so tired. Just been busy with DS (so cute ATM!) who is going really well, we're all loving life since (mostly) going off dairy, it's made a huuuuuuge difference. People have been commenting lately on how much more 'settled' DS is, which is nice, and so true! I'm working one day a week, which is good, and busy with ABA stuff. Our group is going really well, I just need to get more study in!!! Going to start TTC soon, which is very exciting and nerve wracking at the same time. Today is one of those days where I feel more nervous than anything . I can't even spit my words out, I'm so tied up in knots about it LOL.

So I'll go, love to you all xoxo

[Willow]

Janie - You can, i can see it!

I'm actually trialling DS on cow's milk again this f/night to see how he goes. He's pretty much been on lactose free since 12 months, but we want to see how he goes on the normal stuff.

So no dairy at all for DS? Do you find that hard? DS doesn't have much dairy, occasionally some custard or yoghurt (maybe once a month??) and lactose free milk. He does have cheese sometimes and margarine on toast.

[~Jayne~]

Hi Everybody,
Am here, just busy with Alan home this week & the kids. Claudia had a playdate this morning & Jessica one after school, so very busy day. Tomorrow off bedroom suite shopping for Claudia which is VERY, VERY sad but exciting at the same time.
Will catch up properly with personals as soon as I can!
Just a quick one Michelle - Claudia STILL has the Freddo tattoo's on her arms!

[Inanna]

Hi my loves - am posting on my iphone & I still have a uterus! Due to the antiphospholipid syndrome I ran into some cardiac complications. It's a bit long & winded & I don't want to lose the post. I (or Michelle ) will fill you in on the hoo ha. So of booked for toMorrow at 5pm. Feeling a bit fragile - confronted with my mortality yet again...*note to Universe* back off now baby I get it!
Love to you all

[Janie]

Oh Deb, . I hope all goes well at 5pm today, I'll be thinking of you xoxo

[Willow]

Deb -

I will light a candle for you at 5pm and send up my prayers.

[butterfly_warrior]

More prayers here, Deb.

BW

[mako]

Deb I will be thinking of you today

Jayne Those tats stay on for weeks and weeks...they don't even budge after kids have been swimming in chlorine pools and rubbed dry with a towel lol..I bet Claudia is very pleased its still on her though

[Bun]

Deb - I hope all goes well. I will be thinking of you

Janie - I know exactly what you mean about TTCing again. I am in the same mind. Some days I really want to and other days I am petrified!

Willow - I hate those days! You just feel like you should never have gotten out of bed! We never got around to replanting anything in our front yard as I predicted! Now it will probably stay bare for ages as the forecast is for showers on the weekend. It makes such a difference having proper edging done and is much easier to maintain. We are thinking of putting in a raised garden bed and vegie patch. My bet is that we won't get it done for months though knowing us! So now we have a lovely big gaping hole in the front yard and my parents are coming to stay with us today and see our new house for the first time. So not the impression I wanted to make!

Bek - happy birthday for tomorrow sweetie! I hope you have a lovely day.

I may not be around for a few days as my parents are coming to stay so I will be busy with them. Have a lovely few days everyone!

[BekZ]

Deb - Hugs and prayers.

Willow - What a horrible day sweets. Sounds like you had a great birthday. I have been getting some pretty intense cervix pain and I feel a fair bit pressure down there this time. I put this all down to not sitting down much and running after my kids.

Janie - WTG on TTC again. It is daunting but I am sure you'll find the strength.

Bun - Thanks for the Birthday wishes.

Hi all. Been a few bad days with kids sick and me having my wisdom tooth out etc. I can't wait for some sleep!!!

I will be back later when I can focus

[Willow]

Bek - you have my sympathy, had a rotten few days with the boy not wanting to sleep. Not sure if it's related to re-introducing dairy or if he's just going through a phase like he does . I don't even have sick kids and am getting about 10 hour sleep a night and I'm still tired!

Just finishing my cuppa then I'm heading to bed.

Hope you catch up on some rest tonight and the girls (and you - ouch!) are feeling better tomorrow

Thinking of you Deb and hoping you're recovering well

[BekZ]

Willow - Sara had lactose and dairy issues and I found that she did not cope with milk until she was just over 2yo. I tried to re-introduce even lactose free milk but her tummy, excema and behaviour deteriorated. Sara did tolerate yoghurt and hard cheese but no milk. HTH

[Willow]

Bek - Funnily enough after thinking about it last night, I realised his 'behaviour' had deteriorated the last few days (ie a lot more whinging and clinginess and generally not as happy as he normally is) then tues/weds I had a hell of a time trying to get him to have a nap during the day. Nights fine, but days took a lot of work to get him to sleep when normally he will just go off to sleep with no problems.

So, no dairy at all today and guess what? Went straight to sleep today without an issue... could be total coincidence but I think we'll steer clear of dairy, particularly cow's milk, for now.

He seems to cope OK with hard cheese, margarine/butter a tiny bit of yoghurt or custard occasionally (but that's only in the last few months, yoghurt used to be the worst for us, days of diarrhea) but maybe not the cow's milk??

Michelle - any news from Deb?

[Michelle71]

Nothing yet Willow. I'll fill you in ASAP and also the reasons for the delay.

[Janie]

Oh I hope she's okay Michelle, I've been thinking of her quite alot, and am a bit worried.

Willow, no surprises there with the dairy stuff, it makes such a difference to DS's behaviour and sleep. We avoid it AMAP, and he is also having enzymes to help him process what small amounts do get through. Unfortunately he is intolerant to soy as well (very common), which is a big pain. Not that I would be giving him soy milk (he has rice milk) but pretty much all foods that are made 'dairy free' use soy as the replacement . I am also dairy and soy intolerant, which makes having a coffee when out and about a bit difficult LOL! But we're pretty relaxed about it, still have a bit of yoghurt and cheese, just nothing else much. DS loves his custard so I make him a rice custard with egg yolk, that sort of thing.

Bek, how did you go with the tooth hun? Had it extracted hey? Hope today was a better day for you .

Bun, hope you're having fun with your parents!!!

Mako, hope you've recovered from your scare today LOL.

Hi to everyone else, it's getting a bit late here, I'd better wander off to bed. Had Nan's memorial today, so we're all pretty worn out. It was lovely though.

Oh, and the countdown is on........is this two week wait possibly harder than the other one?????????

[Michelle71]

Janie - please explain?!?!?! Pleased the memorial was ok

As for Deb - I am waiting for permission to disclose all but she is alive and well In ICU (which is part of the longer story) but she is doing ok. DD gave her the privilege of being the first person to sign her fluro pink cast We can breathe again - thank goodness

[Janie]

So glad to hear that Deb is alive and, well, breathing!!! Thanks Michelle. Send her my love when you next communicate. As for the please explain, do you mean the two weeks? I'm talking about the two weeks (or thereabouts) leading up to O, and feeling nervous knowing that it's coming up! The whole thing, I love it, but I feel scared, and then there's the whole wondering if it will be our last baby, the last time I do this. But mostly it's being scared that freaks me out. Thank goodness I have all of you!!!!!!

[Willow]

Janie - we've been doing the same with DS, not totally cutting dairy out (some people won't even give biscuits etc that have dairy in them, we're not that strict with it) but avoiding it where we can. He was having soy milk for a while till I read up about soy and baby boys and cut that out quick smart. Could never get him to drink rice milk so tried the lactose free and that seems to be OK? Haven't given him anything again this morning so we'll see how he goes today with his sleep. The other thing is he's been sleeping perfectly at night, 12-13 hours, no wake ups, no trouble settling, so perhaps the tantrums at his day time nap were just behavioural and nothing to do with dairy ...you just never know with this boy! LOL

VERY excited about you ttc but totally understand the fear Just remember we're here to hold your hand again!

Could you pm me the custard recipe please?? DS loves it too but I really don't like giving it to him much at all.

Michelle - thanks for letting us know she is OK, that's the only detail I need - I've been worried too. Send her our love when you next txt/speak to her/hear from her.

Most of you would have seen me whinging on fb about being uncomfortable...I'm wondering if Boo turned again last night...seem to be getting more movement up top again and hardly any down low. In any event, hoping like mad s/he doesn't get comfy in a breech position!