Parenting after Loss or Miscarriage ~ March 2009

[MistyFying]

Welcome to Parenting after Miscarriage or Loss. In this thread you will find women who are navigating the sometimes difficult but joyous challenge of parenting after saying goodbye. This can throw up many challenges and in here you will find friendship and a safe place to share your experiences.

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[MistyFying]

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[Freya]

BW - try some coloxyl drops in with his formula, you can buy them from chemist. Work a treat!

[Willow]

Sorry to hear you're having a hard day BW, I don't have any advice, never had a problem with constipation in my bubs fortunately. Doesn't sound like fun though, he may be uncomfortable which is why he's not taking his bottles?

Janie - spill!

[Janie]

Visitors, grrrrrrrrrrr. I had the night off and went to a party at a friend's, but DH had an interesting night. Poor guy. Driving us nuts, but not long to go.

It's getting late now, I'd better get some beauty sleep

[Willow]

Ahhhh, I understand

Sometimes when mine are visiting I feel like we're walking on egg shells!

[BekZ]

Janie - I feel your pain

Willow - How are you going? DH admitted last night that he hasn't given our new baby much thought. Mostly because he is busy with work, but he feels kind of guilty. I must admit I am a bit the same. I get to the end of each day and think wow I didn't pay much attention to bub at all. Are you finding this is the case? I think I might try and sit quietly for a few minutes per day just to connect. I don't want this bub to be born feeling like she is an after thought iylwim.

Hi all

[Janie]

Bek, I would guess that when your bub arrives it won't feel anything like an afterthought!!! I think that it's a lovely idea to sit quietly and talk to your baby each day, but I wouldn't feel guilty about not doing it. It's hard for babies to be ignored, or not given much thought, once they're here LOL!!! IME, 3rd babies are often much doted on and (dare I say it) spoilt, and I don't think yours will be any different Have you heard back from Barb yet? If not, try sending her another PM, and put something like "LC recommendation in QLD" as the subject. She's really very helpful, but extraordinarily busy, so if you haven't heard back yet it's probably because it's slipped past her.

Michelle, thanks so much

Breathing deeply...........

[butterfly_warrior]

We finally have success! We have our first stinky nappy in 5 days - almost to the hour. I'm sure it's a relief to both of us!

Janie, I hope your home life is back to normal routine very quickly... I hate having visitors at the best of times, but there are some that are so disruptive I find it almost impossible to tolerate.

BW

[Janie]

YAY BW!!!!!!!!!!!!

DS and I are off to a Playschool concert this morning with some friends, so getting out for a bit of a break Thanks for your understanding gals I feel a bit mean, it's nice to know I'm not the only one who feels like this!!!

[BekZ]

Janie - I am sure bub will be hard to ignore when she arrives lol. I haven't heard from Barb yet, thanks for asking I am sure she is just busy.

BW - Yey on the poo

Thankfully I am over the gastro bug. I am crossing my fingers that the girls don't get it now

[Michelle71]

Morning girls!! Just a quick one. The boy has had fevers up to 39.4 last night and 38.7 this morning with what smells like the start of gastro poos And don't ask me how I know what gastro smells like .......... I am a trained professional Who is somewhat manic through lack of sleep.

Janie - I love visitors, family or not, but they can do your head in after a day or so, so Some are better guests than others.

Bek - I was thinking of posting something along those lines the other day. When pregnant with the girl, I felt like I would *forget* I was pregnant some days and now she is here there are moments when I feel like she isn't getting the same attention that DS had (and still has ) That isn't to say she is ignored but she may have to cry longer than DS did because I might be changing a nappy etc. And so I feel guilty she isn't getting the best.

BW - woo hoo on the poo!!! Good boy for finally adding substance to smells!!!

Big hello to Willow, Mako, Deb, Jayne, Lisa (yay for Sydney!!!) and Anna (OMG you are sooooo close!! Where did that go .....)

Hopefully I didn't miss anyone and wish me luck for not getting the lurgy back again. I have football on the weekend!!!!

[BekZ]

Michelle - Get better vibes to your little man

[~Jayne~]

Hey Ladies, tell me if I am crazy, but I have been doing my treadmill thingy for 5 days straight now & me thinks my butt is getting toned already? Do you think this is possible or is it just an illusion??

PS _ Can you tell I'm starting to obsess about this weight thingy? LMAO.

[Willow]

Bek - YES! I do feel very similarly and have two close friends prg with #3 who feel the same way! BUT for me I think it has actually been a positive thing. I am not so paranoid, worried, single mindedly (is that a word?? haha!) obsessing about all the sorts of things that could go wrong. I feel a quiet calm about this baby and I am praying HARD that continues after the birth. Family and friends have commented that I seem more relaxed this time and I think for me, that's a really good thing. And like Janie said, I doubt your little girl will escape your attention for long once she's here!

Physically, I'm finding it impossible to forget I'm prg. Varicose veins are back with a vengeance this time not to mention the spider veins in my ankle, which are worse than before, and I didn't think that was possible!! My biggest hope is that the v vein buggers off again after the birth, it did last time but again, it feels much worse this time. Quite depressing at times to think at 30 I have the legs of an 80 year old Not to mention the v vein downstairs But keep telling myself these are the battle scars I wear for my babies. Once Boo arrives and my baby baking days are officially over I will start thinking about possible surgery etc to remove them because the thought of them staying like this gets me down.

Also, didn't want to post in your name thread and put people's noses out of joint but PAHLEASE don't compromise on the beautiful name you've chosen. No changing spelling, no going for Ava instead etc etc. I think it would be such a shame. I think it's so pretty and goes so well with your other girls names. Anyway, that's just my 2c worth!

Michelle - You know how badly I struggled with guilt over DS/DD when he came home. It was such a huge adjustment for me being the mummy of one little cherub who had my undivided attention to trying to be that same mummy to two. But that's the thing - you just can't be. It just comes down to time, and you can't physically be in two places at once. I'm feeling better about that these days but in frank conversations with my close friends I admit that I feel like I wasn't the mother to DS I was to DD It's hard, it really is but I'm trying to accept that this is the nature of 2nd, 3rd, 4th babies. You're doing an awesome job

Jayne - I dunno babe, I'd tend to say noooooo, but then again, it's your butt! You know it best!

OK girls, give me the dates of the Sydney catch up again (WOOOOOOOOT!!!) and which day we're going to the aquarium. I want to write it down in my diary so I'm sorted, would forget my head if it wasn't screwed on these days....speaking of which, I forgot again to call my ob today think he needs to reschedule my appt.


***ETA: Almost forgot (told ya!) BW - wooooot for big poos!!

[Willow]

BAH! BB is driving me nuts with this not posting, double posting business

[~Jayne~]

***** WEDNESDAY APRIL 22 @ THE AQUARIUM ******

Bek - Tell me the name debate? I may have to stalk the threads to find it.

Love JS

[Janie]

Aaaaaah, peace Poor DS will miss his Papa, and bossing him around but I think we all need a rest!