Parenting after Loss or Miscarriage ~ Sep/Oct 09

[Michelle71]

Spring - my sympathies DH is getting worse and needs to do something about it but getting him to is the challenge. I have been in the other room on and off so we can all get more sleep by halving the wake ups so I notice the snoring more now I'm back. And thank you for the tips I am trying to not react and just walk away but it is getting more difficult. This has been constant for a few days, ALL day and mummy is feeling unloved. Although he knew he was being naughty this morning and came to give me a kiss.

BW - 13th is on for me

Off to work today and so tired. Looking forward to some child free time though

ETA - can anyone see my ticker?? Not sure if the issue is overall or just my computer

[butterfly_warrior]

Michelle, it's not just your computer or your ticker - the bump and beyond ones just seem to be down at the moment. It's across other sites too, I can't remember when it started but I think it's been like this for a few days.

BW

[briggsy's girl]

morning all
Spring - snoring is a trigger for issues with DH and I - not so much that he snores, but that he won't do anything about it. i have asked sooo many times for him to do something and nothing happens. sucks! he did say when DD was born that if, when he was home, it impacted her he'd sleep in the other room - i was rather hormonal and cracked it - what about how it impacts ME!! to make it harder, she sleeps through it!

Janie - if you need PCOS/BFP advice, feel free to PM

Mako - i'd be grouchy at your boss too - who goes to work when they have WC unless they've completely gotten past the infective stage? grrr

AFM - i don't post much in here, mostly because i read and realise i don't have much to say! DD is four months old and DH has started talking about "when" we have another, not "if" - it's feeling like we want to have another eventually, but i'm just not sure if i can go through the trying again. if it was just going to be negative results then i guess it's hard, but tolerable - but we kept getting handed the dream and then having it taken away. i am almost in that headspace where i don't want to have to go through that again - would rather be content with one and not put any of us through that turmoil again. it's hard. i know DH wants to have a big family, and i feel guilty cos i know our losses were due to my PCOS and not being able to find the balance of hormones and stuff - so if we only have one, it really is because of me. sigh. it's obviously getting to me cos i'm having nightmares about it all again! my subconscious definitely expresses all the stuff that i can't express while i'm awake


ETA - i noticed the tickers - is driving me nuts - have just checked and am going to get me another ticker! lol

[Janie]

Thanks everyone for the PCOS offers . It was a really basic question, but for a friend who is stressing out and confused. I chatted to Michelle this morning and confirmed what we thought! Thanks a million Michelle, you're a champ .

Only just over two hours to go! My lovely friend's news has distracted me somewhat which has been good . In fact, I think I need my scan and appointment to distract me from her situation!!! And our mutual friend has her appointment tomorrow where she will likely find out if she's having her baby next week or not. So it's a big few days for us! Too much excitement for a pg lady to handle .

Will be back later to update, but as I have my Ob appt too I will likely be late. I will try to text Michelle straight after the scan, and if she's able to log on she can update you all .

[LisaL]

Waiting for Janie to post.....

[Spring Angel]

cyber stalking Janie also.

[BekZ]

me too

[Lee]

Hi ladies !

Spring - you are not alone with a snoring issue. My DH is okay now, but he was tested positive to sleep apneoa and now wears a cpap machine at night time - which has certainly improved his sleep/quality of life during the day - and the best spin off is virtually no snoring - just the dull drone of a machine (which I can live with). You need your sleep girl - tell your DH is not personal, but he will have to bugger off to the spare room - even harder when bubs arrives - it's like how many bl...dy things do you need keeping you awake - husband, toddler, new baby arrggghhh!!! Best to get the situation sorted as best you can now. Do you wear ear plugs - they help a lot.

Janie - how'd you go??

Not much to report here - massive stretching/ligament pain most of the day - this bub is a whopper I think - and I have only just entered the business end of the pregnancy!!! I'm still sleeping poorly and would kill for 8 straight hours.....

Oh yeah - I told my DH I think this is going to be a big baby (as all my others have been, so no surprise) and his reply was "well, maybe you should cut back on eating" - damm men, why do they think we are seeking solutions when we make a statement - I'm not an over-eater, so what do I just stop eating so I can have a tiny baby??? Roll eyes!!!

Hugs to all.

Lee xo

[Janie]

Hi all!!!!

Everything looks great, risk is 1:11,000 and something, so excellent results . They've changed my EDD to 8th April, so I'm now 13 weeks today apparently . I still maintain that 11th April is the right one, but hey, I'm not going to get fussed over a few days . Bub is 6 cms, and was having a lovely time standing on it's head. I said as long as it stays that way!!!!! That heartbeat was a beautiful sound to hear, DH and I were, and are, very happy .

Thanks everyone for checking up on me, I'm so happy to be able to share good news!!!!! Better go, DS is in desperate need of bed .

[Freya]

Ah Janie fabulous news! Im starting to get a little jealous of our preggo mama's..............who'd have thunk it eh

Lee; I would have decked exDH if he'd have said that to me Men just dont think before they speak do they.

*hugs* Spring.

ExDH has the boys a day early. Jett was asking all day about seeing his Daddy so I asked him if he'd take them for dinner but decided he could have them overnight seeing as tomorrow is kindy day then I was having them tomorrow night (he has fri payweek off so he can go out) but his plans fell through so he's taking them til monday. So its just me and the Riv-man. Who is finally asleep after screaming through my dinner. I think more teeth are on their way.

Not to mention he is this..close to crawling

And Im bored hahahahaha

[Janie]

You Are Not Bored Anna . Read a book. Watch a movie. Go to bed early (my personal fave LOL). Enjoy hun .

[Willow]

OK, I totally lost this thread somehow and was wondering where on earth everyone went!!

Janie - Sooooo thrilled to hear about your wonderful scan! Although there wasn't a doubt in my mind it would be wonderful. Thinking blue babe...blue!

Bek - You're doing a wonderful job and I know it seems sooooo hard now but honestly, one day you'll look back on this and be so proud for sticking with it. Things will settle and before you know it b'feeding will be something you just do and don't think about any more.

BW/Michelle - I'm still on for the 13th but can I admit I'm getting nervous about the venue? Dh thinks I'm nuts for taking all three on my own because he knows that I'll be chasing after the big two all day and there will be very little 'catching up' for me. We're also a bit paranoid about parks/public places like that these days (being school hols) after losing DD earlier in the year. Scared 10 years off us. She is off with the faires and needs to be watched constantly.

Anna - Dude...enjoy the serenity!! SLEEP!

Spring - Another here who sleeps with a SHOCKING snorer. In fact I am certain he has sleep apnea (sp??) and have been bugging him for years to have a sleep study done. His dad and brother both have it. I think it's mainly cause they have no necks Funny, but totally true!!! In all seriousness though, I do worry about it and the affect on his heart as dodgy hearts are all over his family...you've reminded me to bug him about it again for the millionth time. Hope you guys kiss and make up asap.

Mako - That boss of yours....I just don't know what to say any more!!! So sorry again about the weekend, so disappointed, but we WILL make it up there soon enough.

Better go, DS2 has been asleep since 6.30pm, I should be in bed!

**ETA: Just wanted to say how much I love all you girls and value having all of you in my life. Random I know, but just reading and posting in a thread that reminded me how awesome you all are

[Lee]

lol about being bored Anna - thats something I aspire too and dream about !!!! Don't think it'll happen till I'm 60 though!

Great results Janie, couldn't ask for better than that!! Yah!!

Lee xo

[BekZ]

Janie - Whoot I am dancing a little happy dance for you.

Willow - Thanks for the encouragment. Means alot.

Spring - I have a snorer here too. Hugs. I have actually slapped DH out of frustration.

Anna - Enjoy the serenity

Lee - hmm about your DH's comment. I don't think I've had 8 straight hours sleep for around 4.5 years lol.

AFM - I made it to 12 weeks exclusive breastfeeding. Yey for me and thanks for putting up with my mini meltdowns during this time.

[mako]

Janie I'm so happy for you guys and I'm not surprised that your scan was as wonderful as it could possibly have been. I must say April is a great month to be born

Lee I could have decked your DH too hun. All I can say is MEN I hope you manage to get some decent sleep sometime very soon.

Willow I 2nd you on the meeting place. I'm thinking I'm going to be chasing my boy around all day too and therefore won't be enjoying myself catching up with those of you I've met already and meeting Anna for the 1st time.
I'm sorry hun but I had to giggle when you said "no neck".

Spring to you hun. I can also understand where you're coming from as DH is a SHOCKING snorer too. I'm forever yelling at him to shut up during the night I also want him to go for a sleep study too as he's overweight and I've witnessed him when he's stopped breathing on occasions(scary but he still says its not a problem)

Bekz Woohoo on BF for 12 weeks. You are an amazing Mummy and you should be so proud of yourself. Please don't ever apolagise for venting in here. Thats what we're here for and we all do it.

Michelle I hope you enjoyed your kid free time today and hope you all manage to get some sleep tonight. I haven't forgotten about the nappies either. They are hard to get in touch with with the nappy hunt on. Hopefully I'll have them when I come down on the 13th.

Anna Enjoy the piece and quiet hun. I know I do once Sage is in bed. I just need to learn to go to bed before 11:30 each night.

BG Its great that you popped back in here. I totally understand what you mean about ttc again. I'm so scared about losing another baby too and knowing how my DH feels about it scares the life out of me. Hopefully we won't have to worry about that ever again now that we've created a healthy little earthside being. How are the work plans going for you guys? I hope things are falling into place for you and your DH.

BW,Lisa,Deb,Sazz and everyone else I know I've missed. I hope you're all ok.

[Michelle71]

Alrighty - alternative outing venues??? Or is it close enough Willow that you and DH could check it out and see if it is suitable?? There is the playcentre option but not sure how busy it will be I'd offer my place but there isn't enough room for them to run around There is also the weather to consider too ..........

Janie - excellent news!! Got the message at work but things were a little messy

[Willow]

Michelle - it's probably about the same distance from here to your place, about 40 mins I'd guess?? I don't know if we'll get a chance to go out there. I was thinking play centre too, at least they're 'contained' that way, but you're right it'd be a nightmare in school hols.

Unless someone can come up with somewhere a bit more exciting, Im happy to offer my place. I *think* there'd be enough room, even in wet weather. We have a pretty big backyard for the kids to play in and an undercover area they could play if it rained? If it's nice we could have lunch outside and watch the kiddies play? What do you think Mako? (she's been here quite a few times now)

I know it's a bit 'way out west' but I don't think anyone (apart from poor Mako ) would be travelling any more than 40 mins. Otherwise, I'll keep thinking...

Off for an exciting day just DH and I (and the little boy of course) of shopping (yes, my DH is going shopping with me He is making a real effort, I even got flowers during the week!) for the big boy's bday presents and lunch. MIL is taking the big two for us so they can play with their cousins.

[briggsy's girl]

ahhh all this talk of meet ups - i HATE living so far away sometimes (yeah, this is a Syd one, but it happens in Melb too!). love where i live though lol

Mako - DH has picked up some temp work, had a couple of interviews, and waiting on some more info for another job or two. the temp job this work may run into next week, we don't know. the temp agency rang him within an hour of registering with them, so that's a good sign. they have a few drivers jobs on the go, all local - it's actually nice having him home every day. E is loving it!

having just whinged about meet ups - i've organised one local for lunch time today - but it's people from closer to Melb that are coming, and the ones from local aren't - go figure!

better go get organised soon - mum has to pick me up, take me to get our car, then back to meet up and back to picck DH up after that... sigh - he needs to get his ute back on the road