Mothers Group for parents after losing babies...I just don't fit?

[Ellie]

Just wondering if anyone else has waited so long to hold there bub in their arms, thinking finally you won't feel 'different' only to find that the journey you have been through has changed you forever? I'm trying to go to Mothers Group but really having to make myself go...so what is the point? But it's good for bub to have the social contact...and it's not their fault they are all young and fell pregnant within months of trying...my perspective is just so different...should I keep trying? Thanks in advance for your thoughts.

[fionas]

I think keep going - your baby's only six months old. It took me longer than that before I felt comfortable. Unless they're horrible, then there's no point.

I think what helped was arranging MG dinners (without the babies). I feel much better if I can relax into a conversation rather than having 10 second grabs here and there which is what happens when babies/toddlers are around. Helps to have a glass of wine in hand too!

[LisaL]

Ellie - I didnt go to my mothers group either, i didnt 'click' with any of the women and it just didnt feel right so I stopped going. But I did join a local kids playgroup when she was 1 and i still love and alexandra really enjoys.

Lis

[thepixie]

Ellie sometimes it's just not a good fit... two of the girls in our mothers' group started out in a different one but joined ours because they didn't really click with the first one. Maybe try a different MG or meet some mums through playgroups or similar, you might have more in common. I think fionas' suggestion is good too

[STARRYSKY]

The other girls have all had great suggestions....I just wanted to add that you are not alone in feeling like that, I was pretty much the only person who had been "actively" trying to get pregnant in my MG, also the only one who has had a miscarriage, I talked about it when we first started and introduced ourselves and talked about our pregnancies etc, I think I freaked alot of the younger girls out.
But anyway, we all get along pretty well, I dont socialise with them outside of group though.
Good luck with finding some nice mummies to hang with x

[Spring Angel]

I totally get how you feel. I would go so far as to say I felt bitter that they got such an easy ride and I'd been to hell and back. I didn't join a 'mother's group' as such. However I got really close to a wonderful group of BB ladies and we started meeting IRL. I consider them friends for life now.

Love Spring

[Ellie]

Thanks Ladies! So good to know I'm not alone feeling this way. I'm just so thankful I have BB...better than any Mothers Group hey!