 Poems
I thought that it would be nice to have a thread where we could share poems or lyrics about miscarriage and loss. They may be poems relating specifically to loss, or those that have helped you through those tough times.
If you would like to have a poem included, please reply to this post and I will add it. I've gone back through the miscarriage and loss threads and already found a few to start us off.
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What Makes A Mother? Submitted by Becc
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today.
I asked what makes a mother;
And I know I heard him say:
A mother has a baby
This we know is true.
But God, can you be a mother
When your baby's not with you?
Yes, you can, He replied
With confidence in His voice.
I give many women babies;
When they leave is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime
And others for a day.
And some I send to feel your womb;
But there's no need to stay.
I just don't understand this, God
I want my baby here!
He took a breath and cleared His throat,
And then I saw a tear.
I wish I could show you
What your child is doing today.
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say...
"We go to earth to learn our lessons
Of love and life and fear
My Mommy loved me oh so much,
I got to come straight here.
"I feel so lucky to have a Mom
Who had so much love for me;
I learned my lesson very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.
"I miss my Mommy oh so much
But visit her each day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow there I lay.
"I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
And whisper in her ear;
"Mommy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here."
So you see, my dear sweet one,
Your children are okay.
Your babies are here in My home,
And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you, with Me
Until your lesson there is through,
And on the day that you come home
They'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a mother;
It's the feeling in your heart.
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start.
Though some on earth may not realise,
Until their time is done.
Remember all the love you have
And know that you are a SPECIAL MOM!
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Baby Angel (author unknown) Submitted by Angel
Don't let them say I wasn't born,
That something stopped my heart,
I felt each tender squeeze you gave,
I've loved you from the start.
Although my body you can't hold,
It doesn't mean I'm gone,
This world was worthy, not, of me,
God chose that I move on.
I know the pain that drowns your soul,
What you are forced to face,
You have my word, I'll fill your arms,
Someday we will embrace.
You'll hear that it was "meant to be
God doesn't make mistakes",
But that won't soften your worst blow,
Or make your hearts not ache.
I'm watching over all you do,
Another child you'll bear,
Believe me when I say to you,
That I am always there.
There'll come a time, I promise you,
When you will hold my hand,
Stroke my face and kiss my lips,
And then you'll understand.
Although I've never breathed your air,
Or gazed into your eyes,
That doesn't mean I never "was"
An angel never dies...
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Father's Day Submitted by Becc
A gift for you on Fathers Day,
What on earth could it be?
I know the gift you really want,
Is to once again, have me.
Or perhaps the gift of understanding,
To make sense of a senseless loss.
I'm sorry, my dearest Daddy,
But for those gifts, you must talk to the boss.
The gifts that I can give today,
Are memories, both sad and sweet.
From the touch of your hand on Mummy's tummy,
To my tiny little feet.
Remember the joy you felt inside,
When you found out you would be my Daddy?
the great big smiles upon your face,
You were over the moon, you were so happy.
Remember when you felt me move,
the wonder and love you'd feel?
Remember it today Daddy,
It just might help you heal.
Remember the little cuddles we had,
And the moments that we shared.
Remember my little nose,
And the colour of my hair,
I love you dearest Daddy, you know that this is true.
Just keep your memories of me alive,
And I will always live in you.
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Spring (John Butler Trio) Submitted by Angel
So Spring is in her belly,
It's sprouted in her soul,
and no one had to tell us,
we did just know.
and know life seems a little more, somehow,
meaningful
and I looked at her like I always do and I see,
beautiful
Just the thought of you changed us,
I remember exactly when,
but as soon as you say hello,
you say goodbye again,
and now she feels abandoned,
Forgotten and betrayed,
well there ain't nothing I can do,
There?s nothing I can say.
But,
Don't go away so soon,
I?m hoping to meet you,
when will our paths cross again?
I know we'll be the best of friends.
Thought I?d like to meet you,
See what you looked like,
I bet you look like your mother,
boy, you'd be shining in the light,
but your not coming out to play,
Not tomorrow or tonight,
And now I hold her crying
Yes I hold her body tight.
Yes I hold her body tight.
And I say,
Don't go away so soon,
I?m hoping to meet you,
when will our paths cross again?
I know we'll be the best of friends.
Don't go away so soon,
I'm hoping to meet you
When will out paths cross again?
I know we'll be the best of friends.
Now its a month since your visit
and your memory lingers on,
Somehow feels like your around,
even though I know your gone
and in these times when you feel so low
Ain?t nothing you can do
But we're still thankful for your visit
?Cause we changed ?cause of you,
Yeah we changed ?cause of you.
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Anonymous author: Submitted by Angel
All autumn you danced within me,
Dancing to the music of my soul, I felt the vibrant personality you would be.
Then one day the dancing ceased,
I knew of it before your heartbeat could not be heard.
All my dreams of you, the life that we would share, taken in a day, in a moment.
The dancing has ceased, but my love for you, my precious one, goes on.
Forever a part of me. Forever in my thoughts. Forever in my dreams. I love you.
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The Master Gardener Submitted by Ms Lee
(Helen Rice Steiner)
The Master Gardener
From Heaven above,
Planted a seed
In the garden of love.
And from it there grew
A rosebud small,
That never had time
To open at all.
For God in His perfect
And all-wise way,
Chose this rose
For his heavenly bouquet.
And great was the joy
Of this tiny rose,
To be the one our Father chose.
To leave Earth's garden
For One on high,
Where roses bloom always
And never die...
So, while you can't see
Your precious rose bloom,
You know The Great Gardener,
From the "Upper Room"
Is watching and tending
This wee rose with care,
Tenderly touching
Each petal so fair...
So think of your Darling
With the Angels above,
Secure and contented
And surrounded by love.
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A Different Child Submitted by Cailin
by Pandora Waldron
A different child,
People notice
There's a special glow around you.
You grow
Surrounded by love,
Never doubting you are wanted;
Only look at the pride and joy
In your mother and father's eyes.
And if sometimes
Between the smiles
There's a trace of tears,
One day
You'll understand.
You'll understand
There was once another child
A different child
Who was in their hopes and dreams.
That child will never outgrow the baby clothes
That child will never keep them up at night
In fact, that child will never be any trouble at all.
Except sometimes, in a silent moment,
When mother and father miss so much
That different child.
May hope and love wrap you warmly
And may you learn the lesson forever
How infinitely precious
How infinitely fragile
Is this life on earth.
One day, as a young man or woman
You may see another mother's tears
Another father's silent grief
Then you, and you alone,
Will understand
And offer the greatest comfort.
When all hope seems lost,
You will tell them
With great compassion.
"I know how you feel.
I'm only here
Because my mother tried again.
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To the Child in My Heart Submitted by babyangelmum (Trish)
0 precious, tiny, sweet little one
You will always be to me
So perfect, pure and innocent
Just as you were meant to be.
We dreamed of you and of your life
And all that it would be
We waited and longed for you to come
And join our family.
We never had the chance to play,
To laugh, to rock, to wiggle.
We long to hold you, touch you now
And listen to you giggle.
I'll always be your Mother.
He'll always be your Dad.
You will always be our child,
The child that we had.
But now you're gone but yet you're here.
We'll sense you everywhere.
You are our sorrow and our joy.
There's love in every tear.
Just know our love goes deep and strong
We'll forget you never -
The child we had, but never had,
And yet will have forever.
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Baby Mine Submitted by Tiggy (Tiff)
There's a small baby boy,
who won't grow up at all,
Did your angel bare him gently Lord,
Because he was so small?
I wondered why you bothered, it's such a long long way
From heaven to a mother's heart,
And then not let him stay.
A lifetime is so little when it's only for a few days.
Excuse the tears and pleading,
The bitterness I've shown
I really did not understand that he was just a loan
I got caught up in all the sweetness,
The joy from day to day,
The clothes I was preparing
While he was on his way
Somehow I never thought
He'd have so short a stay.
What sort of baby is he Lord?
I'm sure he's very good.
But if he cries, I'm sure
It's just his little blue hood.
I've dressed him very warmly to go so far away,
'cause I knew where he was going, he'd be longer than a day.
So Lord, If you're not too busy,
From the cares we give down here,
Will you please just take a minute to whisper in his ear,
That I miss him very dearly, that
I'm glad he came our way
That I close my eyes and see him,
Oh God, please just say
That I'm glad I was his mother
Even though it was just a few short days.
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Just Those Few Weeks Submitted by Hopeful (Kristy)
For those few weeks,
i had you to myself.
And that seems too short a time
to be changed so profoundly.
In those few weeks,
i came to know you,,,
and to love you.
You came to trust me with your life.
Oh, what a life i had planned for you!
Just those few weeks,
When i lost you,
i losted a lifetime of hopes,
plans, dreams and aspirations,,,
A slice of my future simply vanished overnight.
Just those few weeks,
it wasn't enough time to convince others
how special and important you were.
How odd, a truly unique person has recently died
and noone is mourning the passing.
Just a mere few weeks,
And no "normal" person would cry all night
over a tiny, unfinished baby,
or get depressed and withdraw day after endless day.
No one would, so why am i?
You were just those few weeks my little one
you darted in and out of life too quicky.
But it seems that's all the time you needed
to make my life so much richer
and give me a small glimpse of eternity.
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Stillborn Submitted by Tiggy (Tiff)
By Leonard Clark
I carried you in hope,
the long nine months of my term,
remembered that close hour we made you,
often felt you kick and move
as slowly you grew within me, wondered what you would look like
when your wet head emerged,
girl or boy and at that glad moment
I should hear your birth cry
and I welcoming you
with all you needed of warmth and food:
We had a home waiting for you.
After my strong labourings
sweat cold on my limbs,
My small cries merging with the summer air,
you came. You did not cry.
You did not breathe
We had not expected this:
it seems your birth had no meaning
or had you rejected us?
They will say that you did not live,
register you as stillborn.
But you lived for me all that time
in the dark chamber of my womb:
and when I think of you now,
perfect in your little death,
I know that for me you are born still:
I shall carry you with me forever,
my child, you were always mine,
you are mine now
Death and life are the same mysteries.
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Submitted by Tiggy (Tiff)
What we have done
will not be lost
to all eternity.
Everything ripens
at it's own time
and becomes fruit
at it's hour.
Divyavadana
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Healing Submitted by Tiggy (Tiff)
By Marjorie Pizer
I sat in my desolation
Withdrawn from all around
Feeling my life was a ruin, a failure.
I was empty inside
With the utter collapse of my being.
I did not care anymore
For living or dying.
I was alone
In my distress and desolation.
But as I sat sadly on the ground,
The sun reached out his hand to me
And touched my face
And so my healing began.
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Submitted by babyangelmum (Trish)
Words by Elliott’s Mummy, Lynda
Cradled for moments,
Loved forever.
Always cherished,
Forgotten? Never!
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Submitted by babyangelmum (Trish)
Mommy cries for the moments when you were all mine
my tears seem endless thinking of all the lost time
my heart aches for the things I will never know yet dream of
I long to be with you or at least know that you feel my love
Mommy cries because I will never know the answers why
you were gone so quick, I wasn't ready to say goodbye
I couldn't fit a lifetime of words into that day
and feel sad at times for the things I don't get to say
Mommy cries when I can't exactly picture where you are
I imagine a place that surrounds you with love and it's not to far
then I wish upon wishes that you could show me the way
I travel in my dreams to hold you again but this time I can stay
Mommy cries for the memories that are gone
the ones I planned on making, the ones I missed out on
like watching your eyes slowly open, or telling you your name
making you smile and laugh as we played our favorite game
Mommy cries because a part of me lies with you
I can't get it back and maybe I don't want to
I have been touched by an angel and he watches over me
and no matter where I go there he will be
Mommy cries when I visit you and clean near your stone
I want so much more for you, I want to take you home
even though it hurts that is where you are, where I grieve
it never gets easier though, I still feel so empty when I leave
Mommy cries because life goes on and I don't want to let go
I hold that day so close to me, it's all I will ever know
my love for you will stand the test of time, it will last forever
knowing that in our hearts we will always be together
Mommy cries for the days that have yet to come
your first birthday, the day you should have turned one
I wonder if years from now will it be the same when I cry
will it hurt just as much counting the years that have gone by..
thank you to anyone who reads this.. it truly comes from my heart.
Meg
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Submitted by babyangelmum (Trish)
~ Words by Mummy, Lynda ~
Angel babies,
In Heaven above,
In God‘s care,
Wrapped in our love.
Angel babies,
You’ll never know,
Just how much,
We miss you so.
Angel babies,
Spirits set free,
To roam the skies,
For eternity.
Angel babies,
Though we’re apart,
You’ll always remain,
Deep within our hearts.
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Submitted by babyangelmum (Trish)
Charlotte Rose , our gift in Spring
So much love she was to bring
We had much hope & joy for her birth
But she was too beautiful for this Earth
Why did she have to go away?
Precious babies are meant to stay
How do we mend our broken hearts?
We’re not meant to be apart
I wish I could take away the pain
Our lives will never be the same
When will we stop feeling this way?
Heartache is with us every day
But when we wish upon a star
My little angel is not far
Shining down from heaven above
Knowing she is treasured and loved.
Trish
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These are My Footprints Submitted by babyangelmum (Trish)
These are my footprints, so perfect and so small.
These tiny footprints, never touched the ground at
all.
Not one tiny footprint, for now I have my wings. These
tiny footprints were meant for other things.
You will hear my tiny footprints, in the patter of the
rain. Gentle drops like angels tears, of joy and not
from pain.
You will see my tiny footprints, in each butterflies'
lazy dance. I'll let you know I'm with you, if you
give me just a chance.
You will see my tiny footprints, in the rustle of the
leaves. I will whisper names into the wind, and call
each one that grieves.
Most of all, these tiny footprints, are found in
mummy's heart, cause even though I'm gone now, we'll
never truly part."
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Never Submitted by Kazz
I'll never get to see your precious face
or whisper words to make you feel safe,
I'll never get to hold you tight
when you can't sleep at night,
I'll never get to sing to you a sweet lullaby
to calm you down when you cry,
I'll never get to fall asleep with you in my arms,
all bundled in a blanket to keep you warm,
I'll never get to to hear you laugh and giggle,
or see your toes wiggle.
There are many things I won't get to do,
but the hardest is not being with you.
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My Angel baby Boy Submitted by Kazz
My angel baby boy I can't believe your gone;
what makes it so?
Hard is that I longed for weeks to,
hold and kiss you.
I dreamed of the day I would count fingers and toes
as you entered our world,
now I can only dream.
The hopes I had for you are a fleeting memory,
now replaced by tears of misery and anguish.
There isn't any faltering in the tears that I shed;
they fall freely from my eyes.
My angel baby boy,
I miss you and love you so.
How many tears must I shed to feel healing has begun?
I'll shed a milliom; trillion even to never forget
my angel baby boy.
My precious angel baby boy,
I'll never let you die in my heart,
you'll live there for a lifetime and no one will ever
take you away from me again.
Keeping you safe and tucked deep,
you'll never be cold or hungry;
safe warm and happy in my heart you'll stay.
My heart has been tortured with pain, but,
with you there I'm feeling better.
My anel baby boy, I love you.
Your wings are spreading wide.
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Mummy's little baby Submitted by Kazz
Mummy's little baby is not far away,
I'm keeping you in my heart
and that's how it's going to say!
Although you didn't get to meet me
and look into my eyes,
Mummy will be thinking of you when
I look up into the skies.
Ad when I feel the sunshine....
shining down on me,
I know your safe & happy and
where you have to be.
I have so many questions
and there are no answers to find,
but don't think for just a second that
you'll ever leave my mind.
You, my precious angel made
a mummy out of me,
but our Father up in heaven,
chose to raise you instead of me.
God must have so much love in store
and wonderful plans for you.
So I will carry this burden of pain,
so your dreams come true!
So cry any tears my love- be happy
and be free.
When God decides its time...
you will meet daddy and me
You are very special both here and in
heaven above
No matter where you are my angel you,
have Daddy and Mummy's love.
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Submitted and written by Fiona Jill
Today is a special day,
It’s ok to shed a tear.
There is a place in your heart for me,
I know you hold so dear.
Why did I have to leave?
Before this day had come.
They tell me that you’re special,
You’re my special mum.
I wish I got to look at you,
Gaze into those loving eyes.
I feel the love you have for me,
Love that strong never dies.
I come and visit often,
You know that I am here.
I get to feel your warmth,
When you hold my brother near.
I hope he gets to know me,
I love to run and play.
He will tell you stories about me,
And ask why I couldn’t stay.
They talk about you fondly,
All the angels up here.
They say I’m really lucky,
That’s its you who holds me near.
Today is a special day,
I love you, my mother dear.
Hold on to my big brother tightly,
So I can hold you near.
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Submitted by Kirsty - author unknown
The Angel, in the Book of Life,
Wrote down my darling's birth,
And murmured, as she closed the book,
"Too beautiful for Earth."
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Submitted by Kirsty - author unknown
Our time together was short, but our touch enduring.
The love you gave me was sufficient for a lifetime, such was our bond.
Your special gift to me, Mum & Dad, was my birth.
My special gift to you was the strengthening of your love for each other.
The tears you now cry are meant to flow.
I am still yours.
When you feel alone, remember I am with you.
When you feel sad, remember me & be joyful.
When you feel despair look for my rainbow,
And I will be there.
I am yours, Your little one.
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The Cord Submitted by Mooshie
Author Unknown
We are connected
My daughter and I, by
An Invisible cord
Not seen by the eye.
It's not like the cord
That connects us 'til birth
This cord can't be seen
By any on earth.
This cord does it's work
Right from the start.
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.
I know that it's there
Though no-one can see
The Invisible cord
From my daughter to me.
The strength of this cord
Is hard to describe.
It can't be destroyed
It can't be denied.
It's stonger than any cord
man could create
it withstands the test
and can hold any weight.
And though you are gone,
Though you're not here with me,
The cord is still there
But no-one can see,
It pulls at my heart
I am bruised .........
I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline
As never before,
I am thankful that we are
connected this way
A mother and child
Death can't take it away!
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The Dance (Song by Garth Brooks) Submitted by babyangelmum (Trish)
Lookin' back on the memories of
the dance we shared beneath the stars above.
For a moment, all the world was right.
How could I've known that you'd ever say 'good bye?'
(Chorus)
And now, I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end
the way it all would go.
And our lives are better left to chance.
I could have missed the pain, but I'd've had to miss the dance.
Holdin' you, I've held everything.
For a moment, wasn't I the king?
But if I'd only known how the king would fall,
Hey, who's to say, you know, I might have changed it all.
Repeat (Chorus)
Yes, my life is better left to chance.
I could have missed the pain, but I'd've had to miss the dance.
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To where you are Submitted by babyangelmum (Trish)
(By Josh Groban )
(Lyrics were composed by Linda Thompson)
(Music by Richard Marx)
Who can say for certain
Maybe you're still here
I feel you all around me
Your memory's so clear
Deep in the stillness
I can hear you speak
You'r still an inspiration
Can it be
That you are mine
Forever love
And you are watching over me from up above
Fly me up to where you are
Beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile
to know you're there
A breath away's not far
To where you are
Are you gently sleeping
Here inside my dreams
And isn't faith believing
All powers can't be seen
As my heart holds you
Just one beat away
I cherish all you gave me
Everyday
Cause you are mine
Forever love
Watching me from up above
And I believe
That angels breathe
And that love will live on and never leave
Fly me up to where you are
Beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile
To know you're there
A breath away's not far
To where you are
I know you're there
A breath away's not far
To where you are.
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Hello ,Goodbye (Song Michael W Smith) Submitted by babyangelmum (Trish)
Where’s the navigator of your destiny?
Where is the dealer of this hand?
Who can explain life and it’s brevity
’cause there is nothing here that I can understand
You and I have barely met
And I just don’t want to let go of you yet
Chorus:
Noah, hello, goodbye
I will see you on the other side
Noah, sweet child of mine
I will see you on the other side
And so I hold your tiny hand in mine
For the hardest thing I’ve ever had to face
Heaven calls for you before it calls for me
When you get there, save me a place
A place where I can share your smile
And I can hold you for more than just a while
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Butterfly Submitted by babyangelmum (Trish)
~ Mariah Carey
When you love someone so deeply
They become your life
It's easy to succumb to overwhelming fears inside
Blindly I imagined I could
Keep you under glass
Now I understand to hold you
I must open up my hands
And watch you rise
CHORUS
Spread your wings and prepare to fly
For you have become a butterfly
Fly abandonedly into the sun
If you should return to me
We truly were meant to be
So spread your wings and fly
Butterfly
I have learned that beauty
Has to flourish in the light
Wild horses run unbridled
Or their spirit dies
You have given me the courage
To be all that I can
And truly feel your heart will
Lead you back to me when you're
Ready to land
CHORUS
I can't pretend these tears
Aren't overflowing steadily
I can't prevent this hurt from
Almost overtaking me
But I will stand and say goodbye
For you'll never be mine
Until you know the way it feels to fly
Chorus (2)
So flutter through the sky
Butterfly
Spread your wings and fly
Butterfly
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Your Maker By Alison Williams
We have a child in Heaven that never knew our love
A child dancing with angles in a perfect world above
We never got to name our child before heaven took a smile
We were left cring and wondering as I put my God on trial
I miss the pains of my womb growing and the prayers we said each and every night
As the months drag on you'd be that little bit nearer and soon your face well in sight
I've cried enough tears to end a drought and have a rainbow sitting on my cheek
sometimes I'm happy and laughing again and then I crash and the world is bleak
I play you songs and I hope you can hear them
I hope you are on my grandfathers knee
We're tring to give you a brother or sister so that one day in Heaven you will see....
That children are a gift form God
and although we could love you...we could never love you like your maker
Ali
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A Walk To Remember Submitted by loveloula
I walk to remember
the steps you'll never take.
I carry you with me
as I firmly plant my feet.
Our trek started long ago,
before my belly swelled.
You were a love that grew-
like butterfly wings that beat.
Your gently flutters then became
kicks upon which I would dwell.
And I would talk to you, sweet babe,
about the world you soon would meet.
The sun always shone upon us then-
when you were in my womb.
And I was eager to show you the world
that would have been your home.
How you'd have loved the sun shining-
blue skies without a cloud.
The autumn leaves turning-
the snow falling all around.
The flowers in summer-
would have filled your eyes with smiles.
And the rain that might have fallen
would have caused you great surprise.
You would have traveled far with me-
holding me by the hand,
And I'd have shown you all I could-
more that I can imagine.
You hold my HEART tightly now,
as though we're holding hands.
How far we've traveled, little one-
and my life with you has been sweet.
For I carry you in my heart,
as I firmly plant my feet.
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Submitted by Baby~amore` (Trish)
Six months was all I had of you,
and some would say our time is through,
but even though we are apart,
your heart beats on inside...
my heart.
author unknown ... can be changed to suit gestation of your precious baby
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When I'm Gone! Submitted by Baby~amore` (Trish)
(Henry Alfred Dixon)
When I'm gone from your side,
and all your tears have been dried
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awaken in the morning hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight,
I am the soft star that shines at night
And when you stroll in the evening hours
and catch the aroma of beautiful flowers
There'll be no need to sob and cry;
I am not there, I did not die!
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Little Baby Submitted by Baby~amore` (Trish)
(Joan D Schmidt)
Little baby who was not meant to be,
You were a person - at least to me.
Would your eyes be blue? Or hazel or dark?
Would you caw like the crow? Or sing like a lark?
Would you have ten little fingers and ten little toes?
A rosebud mouth? A turned up nose?
Would you be laughing and happy, or somber and quiet?
Would you run and jump, or rather be still?
Would you like to read, or prefer to play?
None of my questions will have an answer.
Your chance to live will never be.
The only thing I truly know -
Little baby, we would have loved you so!
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A Man in Grief Submitted by Baby~amore` (Trish)
(Eileen Knight Hagemeister)
To be a man in grief,
Since "men don't cry" and "men are strong"
No tears can bring relief.
It must be very difficult
To stand up to the test
And field calls and visitors
So she can get some rest.
They always ask if she's all right
And what she's going through,
But seldom take his hand and ask,
"My friend, but how are you?"
He hears her crying in the night
And thinks his heart will break.
He dries her tears and comforts her,
But "stays strong" for her sake.
It must be very difficult
To start each day anew
And try to be so very brave--
He lost his baby too.
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Please Don't Tell Them You Never Got to Know Me Submitted by Baby~amore` (Trish)
(Pat Schwiebert)
It is I whose kicks you will always remember,
I who gave you heartburn that a dragon would envy,
I who couldn't seem to tell time and got your days and nights all mixed up,
It is I who acknowledged your craving for peach ice cream by knocking the cold bowl off your belly,
I who went shopping and helped you pick out the "perfect" teddy bear for me,
I who liked to be cradled in your belly and rocked off to dreamy slumber by the fire,
It is I who never had a doubt about your love,
It is I who was able to put a lifetime of joy in an instant.
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In The Garden Submitted by Baby~amore` (Trish)
In the most beautiful of gardens,
most carefully tended, there is an
occasional rosebud that never opens.
in all respects that rose is like
all the others, but some unseen cause
keeps it from blooming.
It wilts and fades away without coming
to its radiant unfolding.
What happens in nature's garden
occasionally happens in God's family.
A baby is conceived, beautiful and precious,
but with some unseen, mysterious band
sealing that life so it never comes to
its rightful unfolding.
This child, too, like the bud that
never opens, gradually fades
and is gathered back into God's
heavenly garden of souls-where all
imperfections are made perfect.
Where all injustices are made right,
where all mysteries will finally
be explained, where all sorrows will
finally be turned to joy!
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The Gift of Memory Submitted by Baby~amore` (Trish)
One gift, above all others
God gives to us to treasure
One that knows no time, no place
And one gold cannot measure
The precious, poignant tender gift
Of Memory...that will keep
On dear ones ever in our hearts
Although God gives them sleep
It brings back long remembered things
A song, a word, a smile
And the world's a better place
...because
We had them for awhile!
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Stillborn Submitted by Baby~amore` (Trish)
(Linda Kay)
Stillborn,
I am not sure I understand.
Is it a babe who is born
In the hush of a morning's breath
Before the birds begin to sing?
No. This is not stillborn, though
We would like it to be.
Is it a babe who is born so quiet,
So still, that the angels hush
Their rustling wings to hear
If she will not draw a tiny breath?
Perhaps. This is very close, but surely,
it means more.
Stillborn,
Born, still in the arms of God.
Stillborn,
Born, still in the full knowledge of
God's love and power,
His glory and grace.
Born, still to us, but alive to God!
Surely this is stillborn:
No death, but life eternal,
No sorrow, but everlasting peace,
No separation, but
communion forever
With God!
Yes, now I understand,
Stillborn . . .
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Only a Moment Submitted by Baby~amore` (Trish)
How quietly she
tiptoed into our world.
Softly, only a moment
she stayed
but what an imprint
her footprints have left
upon our hearts.
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Angel Wings Submitted by Baby~amore` (Trish)
A precious angel slipped away, no one heard a cry.
No time for Dad and Mommy to sing me lullabies.
My time with you was much too short. I had to leave too soon,
But love had joined us as I grew inside my Mommy's womb.
It wove it's way within our hearts, in all our hopes and dreams,
Until the very purest love became my tiny wings.
Although I could not stay with you, I knew right from the start,
That once you felt your angel's love, you'd keep me in your hearts.
I'm just a little angel but my time was not in vain.
As dark clouds that surround you give way unto the sun,
My precious parents you will see that any heart will sing,
If only for a moment it is brushed by angel wings.
By Jean Rozon
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Written & Submitted by *Teagan*
My precious baby
Your were brought to me
A special gift
But it wasn't meant to be
Just past 5 weeks
I knew something was wrong
My heart was shattered
I cried all day long
I didn't want to know
I couldn't believe it was true
Why you were taken from us
No one knew
It hurts so bad
I want the pain to end
I miss you so much
Will my heart ever mend
How I wish you were still with me
The heartache grows each day
I hope that one day we'll meet again
But for now, in God's arms you will lay
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Submitted by naomi54 - author unknown
Daddy, please don't look so sad,
Mama please don't cry~
"Cause I am in the arms of Jesus
and He sings me lullabies."
Please, try not to question God,
Don't think he is unkind
Don't think He sent me to you,
and then He changed his mind.
You see, I am a special child,
and I'm needed up above
I'm the special gift you gave Him,
the product of your love.
I'll always be there with you
and watch the sky at night,
Find the brightest star that's gleaming,
That's my halo's brilliant light.
You'll see me in the morning frost,
that mists your window pane.
That's me in the summer showers,
I'll be dancing in the rain.
When you feel a little breeze,
from a gentle wind that blows
That's me, I'll be there,
planting a kiss on your nose.
When you see a child playing,
and your heart feels a little tug,
That's me, I'll be there,
giving your heart a hug.
So Daddy, please don't look so sad,
Mama don't your cry.
I'm in the arms of Jesus
and He sings me lullabies.
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Submitted by naomi54 (Author - Claudette T. Allen)
Go ahead and mention my child,
The one who died you know.
Don't worry about hurting me further,
The depth of my pain doesn't show.
Don't worry about making me cry.
I'm already crying inside.
Help me to heal by releasing
The tears that I try to hide.
I'm hurt when you just keep silent,
Pretending she didn't exist.
I'd rather you mention my child,
Knowing that she has been missed.
You asked me how I was doing.
I say "pretty good" or "fine."
But healing is something ongoing.
I feel it will take a lifetime.
Author~Elizabeth Dent
O precious, tiny, sweet little one
You will always be to me.
So perfect, pure, and innocent
Just as you were meant to be.
We dreamed of you and of your life
And all that it would be.
We waited and longed for you to come.
And join our family.
We never had the chance to play,
To laugh, to rock, to wiggle.
We long to hold you, touch you now
And listen to you giggle.
I'll always be your mother,
He'll always be your dad.
You will always be our child,
The child that we had.
But now you're gone...but yet you're here
We'll sense you everywhere.
You are our sorrow and our joy,
There's love in every tear.
Just know our love goes deep and strong
We'll forget you never--
The child we had, but never had
And yet will have forever!
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Submitted by naomi54 - author unknown
Mommy and Daddy don't cry for me.
To walk the earth was not meant to be.
I'm in God's house you see.
I watch over you every day.
I know that you love me in a very special way.
You wanted me to be healthy and whole.
So you had to let me go.
You will get to see me every day.
As you look at the children who past your way.
I may be the little boy with the dimple in his chin.
Or the little girl with the golden curl.
You will know what you did is right because
When you look in the sky on a clear star filled night,
I will be the star that is shining so bright.
I love you Mommy and Daddy, good night.
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Submitted by naomi54 - author unknown
It must be very difficult
To be a man in grief
Since "Men don't cry"; and "Men are Strong"
No tears can bring relief
It must be very difficult
to stand up to the test
And field calls and visitors
So she can get some rest
They always ask if she's all right
and what she's going through
But seldom take his hand and ask
My friend, but how are you?
He hears her crying in the night
and thinks his heart will break
He dries her tears and comforts her,
But 'stays strong' for her sake.
It must be very difficult
to start each day anew
And try to be so very brave
He lost his baby too.
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Submitted by naomi54 (Author - Eileen Knight-Hagemeister)
We cried tears when we learned that a child would be,
that our God had allowed you to quicken in me.
We cried tears with our loved ones as they shared our joy,
and we thought about names for a girl or a boy.
I cried tears as I thought of the things we would do,
all the things that your Daddy would pass onto you.
And I cried as I thought of every inch you had grown,
as I pondered the day that you'd make yourself known.
Then to think of the world you must enter brought fears,
once again little one your Mother cried tears.
Something's wrong, I can tell--once again there are tears,
and I'll not get the chance of your love through the years.
Oh the ache and the sorrow and all of the pain,
and again, yes again my tears fell like rain.
Then His peace comes to me as I think of you there,
gently rocking with Father in His favorite chair.
Your sweet little fingers clenched tight in His palm,
and His Son softly singing to help you keep calm.
Our God knew your days before you came to be,
and He knew little one you would not stay with me.
So, I cry, but I know that when this life is done,
I will greet and embrace you my sweet little one.
There's a time to be born, and a time to die,
and the joy and the sorrow both make us cry!
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Submitted by naomi54 (Author - Connie Johnson)
We are connected, My child and I,
by an invisible cord, not seen by the eye.
It's not like the cord that connects
us 'til birth
This cord can't be seen by any on Earth.
This cord does its work right from the start.
It binds us together, attatched to my heart.
I know that it's there, though no one can see,
The invisible cord from my child to me.
The strength of this cord is hard to describe.
It can't be destroyed, it can't be denied.
It's stronger than any cord man could create,
It withstands the test, can hold any weight.
And though you are gone,
Though you are not here with me,
The cord is still there, but no one can see.
It pulls at my heart, I am bruised...I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline, as never before.
I am thankful that God connects us this way,
A mother and child--Death can't take it away!
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Submitted by naomi54 - author unknown
My Precious Little Baby,
Your face I've never seen.
Your skin I've never touched before,
Nor held you close to me.
You lived inside my body,
But only for a while;
Till Jesus softly whispered,
"Come home my little child."
You must have been a special child;
If God needed you up there.
Because heaven is a better home,
It's beauty can't compare.
So, till I get to heaven,
And see your shining face;
Jesus will take care of you,
And love you in my place.
Yes, Jesus loves His little lambs,
They sit around His throne;
So sit on Jesus' lap dear child--
Till Mommy gets called home.
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Happy Mothers Day Mommy Submitted by naomi54
(Author - Heather Peterson....Mommy to Angel Gage)
A kiss to you on Mother's day,
a hug from me to you.
I know that you are sad sometimes,
I know that you are blue.
Please wipe away that tear,
and put on a happy face.
For I'm with God in Heaven now,
and oh, Mommy, what a wonderful place!
God gave me wings so I could fly,
they are white with a hint of blue.
I'm a big boy Mommy, with these wings of mine
they carry me down to visit you.
God is teaching me how to catch your prayers,
prayers that come as wishes.
Your wish is the same everyday,
a wish that I could have stayed.
I have a prayer for you now Mommy,
I pray that you will hear.
God needed me here with him,
I have no pain or fear.
For I am an Angel now you see,
I watch over you each night and day.
A little piece of Heaven on earth,
guiding you on your way.
I come to tuck you in each night,
as you wanted to do with me.
I hear your prayers and kiss your cheek,
and then I watch you dream.
Before I leave you and go back home,
I look at you and sigh.
And as I fly back to Heaven
I sing you a lull-a-bye.
A kiss to you on Mother's Day,
a hug from me to you.
I love you Mommy, please don't cry,
you'll get to hold me soon.
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Together as One Submitted by naomi54
(Author - Heather Peterson....Mommy to Angel Gage)
An Angel woke up early one morning
for he knew he had a plan
God had told him just the day before
that he was off to a different land.
He was proud that he was chosen
he knew it was a wonderful task
God had many to choose from
but it was he that God did ask.
God told him he would be a special gift
to a woman and a man
and their love would hold him close
as God held them in his hand.
With a golden smile, he began his journey
across the imagination stream
He didn't have far to go
when he reached the rainbow of dreams.
Soon he was carried by the stardust
for he no longer needed wings
And as he grew closer, he heard the woman sing
'Sleep tight my Angel,
gentle kisses from me to you
Sleep sound my Angel,
I'll get to see you soon.
Soon he was in a cozy place
her heart beating music of love
inside his Mother's womb
and Angel from up above.
For only a few weeks was this his home
when God told him it was time to leave
Silently he flew back to Heaven
watching his parents grieve.
The little Angel was confused in Heaven
and he approached God to ask
why he had to leave so soon
and why he was chosen for this task.
He listened closely as God replied:
"In a few short weeks
you shared your love
inside her womb she carried
an Angel from up above.
Your task does not end here"
God told his little one.
"For now you will watch over her
until her time is done."
An Angel woke up early one morning
for he knew he had a plan
On golden wings he flew to her
and gently took her hand
She could not see him through her tears
but felt his presence nearby.
He heart lept with joy
as she heard her own lull-a-bye.
'Sleep tight my Mother
gentle kisses from me to you,
Sleep sound my Mother
Your angel is with you.
From that night on he went to her
in daylight and in dreams
Soon her tears came less.
And her eyes again began to gleam.
He knew he would never leave her side
he'd stay with her till the end.
And on that day she would hold him close
and they'd be one again.
I lost my child today.
People came to weep and cry
As I just sat and stared, dry eyed.
They struggled to find words to say
To try and make the pain go away.
I walked the floor in disbelief.
I lost my child today.
I lost my child last month.
Most of the people went away.
Some still call and some still stay.
I wait to wake up from this dream
This can't be real--I want to scream.
Yet everything is locked inside,
God, help me, I want to die.
I lost my child last month.
I lost my child last year.
Now people who had came, have gone.
I sit and struggle all day long,
To bear the pain so deep inside.
And now my friends just question, Why?
Why does this mother not move on?
Just sits and sings the same old song.
Good heavens, it has been so long.
I lost my child last year.
Time has not moved on for me.
The numbness it has disappeared.
My eyes have now cried many tears.
I see the look upon your face,
"She must move on and leave this place."
Yet I am trapped right here in time.
The songs the same, as is the rhyme,
I lost my child......Today.
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Submitted by naomi54
I'm going to tell you something
I hope you'll never have to know.
I'll tell you how a heart can break
And tears can constant flow.
I lost my baby girl you see,
An angel in my eyes
God chose to take her hand one day
And led her to the skies.
But please do not forget my child
She was a person too
And forever she will live
Inside of me and you.
So, please don't ever tell me
That time will heal my pain
Because not even time
Can bring her back again.
Just tell me she is happy
In that land way up above
She's snuggled in an angels wings
All wrapped in Mommy's love.
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Submitted by naomi54 - author unknown
To My Husband...
Your tears flow within your heart,
Mine flow down my cheeks.
Your anger lies with thought and movements,
Mine gallops forward for all to see,
Your despair shows in your now dull eyes,
Mine shows in line after written line.
You grieve over the death of your son,
I grieve over the death of my baby.
But we're still the same, still one,
Only we grieve at different times--
Over different memories
and at different lengths.
Yet we both realize...
The death of our child.
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Death of a Child Submitted by naomi54 (Author - Pam Burden, TCF)
Sorry I didn't get to stay.
To laugh and run and play.
To be there by your side.
I'm sorry that I had to die.
God sent me down to be with you,
to make your loving heart anew.
To help you look up and see
Both God and little me.
Mommy, I wish I could stay.
Just like I heard you pray.
But, all the angels did cry
when they told little me goodbye.
God didn't take me cause' He's mad.
He didn't send me to make you sad.
But to give us both a chance to be
a love so precious...don't you see?
Up here no trouble do I see
and the pretty angels sing to me.
The streets of gold is where I play
you'll come here too, mommy, someday.
Until the day you join me here,
I'll love you mommy, dear.
Each breeze you feel and see,
brings love and a kiss from me.
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Just say "I'm Sorry" Submitted by naomi54 (Author - Sandy Eakle)
You don't know how I feel
Please don't tell me that you do.
There's just one way to know--have you lost a child too?
"You'll have another child!"--must I hear this each day?
Can I get another mother, too, if mine should pass away?
Don't say it was "God's will"--
That's not the God I know,
Would God on purpose break my heart,
Then watch as my tears flow?
"Aren't you better yet?"
Is that what I heard you say?
NO! A part of my heart aches--
I'll always feel some pain.
You think that silence is kind,
But it hurts me even more.
I want to talk about my child
Who has gone through death's door.
Don't say these things to me,
Although you do mean well.
They do not take away the pain away;
I must go through this hell.
I will be better--slow but sure--
And it helps to have you near.
But a simple "I'm sorry you lost your child"
is all I need to hear.
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Submitted by naomi54 - author unknown
Mommy please don't be sad,
I miss you so much too.
It's beautiful here,
but I worry a lot about you.
I sleep with angels watching me...
there is only love up here.
I am never lonely or afraid
because God is so very near.
I walk with Jesus every day,
He is very kind and loving.
Don't worry Mom, He hold my hand
when we cross a golden street.
I never cry or hurt myself,
I see Grandpa every day.
I play and laugh and sing a lot
and I hear you when you pray.
Please Mommy, don't be mad at God,
you see He loves me too.
And even though you are not with me,
I am really still with you.
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Fly Submitted by naomi54 (Celine Dion)
Fly, fly little wing
Fly beyond imagining
The softest cloud, the whitest dove
Upon the wind of heaven's love
Past the planets and the stars
Leave this lonely world of ours
Escape the sorrow and the pain
And fly again.
Fly, fly precious one
Your endless journey has begun
Take your gentle happiness
Far too beautiful for this
Cross over to the other shore
There is peace forevermore
But hold this memory bittersweet
Untill we meet.
Fly, fly do not fear
Don't waste a breath, don't shed a tear
Your heart is pure, your soul is free
Be on your way, don't wait for me
Above the universe you'll climb
On beyond the hands of time
The moon will rise, the sun will set
But I won't forget.
Fly, fly little wing
Fly where only angels sing
Fly away, the time is right
Go now, find the light.
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The Club Submitted by Bec G(Author Karen Grover)
We are all members of a very exclusive club. We had been only vaguely
aware of its existence, and we thought that surely a chapter in a city
the size of ours wouldn't have many members.
We had seen a few people who belonged to the club, but we didn't seem to
have anything in common with them, so we didn't really get to know them.
Occasionally, we read stories in the newspaper about new members being
initiated into the club, but it didn't seem likely that we would ever be
eligible to join, so we paid no attention.
The price of membership is so dear that we couldn't imagine being a part
of the club. We must have realized in the backs of our minds that people
didn't choose to join and pay the dues--it was done for them somehow. In
fact, no one really has any idea of how members are selected. There are
a lot of theories; but much of the time, the theories come from non-members
who don't understand much about the situation.
The "club" we are now in (although it is not an organized group), is
known as "bereaved parents." The cost of our membership was the life of
our children; and we, like all other members, have no idea why we were
selected for membership.
No one wants to be in this club. Even now, months afterward, inside our
hearts and minds we continue to fight membership, but there is no
resigning from it. It is an automatic lifetime membership. There was no
way to avoid it - we did the best we could to keep our children safe only
to have them die. Though we lay awake night after night, and think of it
day after day, there is no answer as to why we have been thrust into this
select group. We hate it and we cry out in protest, but there is no way
to change it.
We have learned a lot since our membership began.
We now understand much about the other members.
In fact, we seek to be with them, to have regular get-togethers,
to discuss our membership, and try to understand its value.
Sometimes, those outside the club are afraid of us, fearing that if they
come near us or talk with us, they will be selected to become members
too! Acquaintances often try to ignore the membership, pretending that
it doesn't exist. They seem to think that will make things easier, and
then the members won't feel "different," but it really only makes things
much worse.
So many times, we have wanted someone to say hello or to tell us they
have been thinking of us or to mention something about the absent child
who still lives inside us and overshadows all our thoughts. We have
heard people say, "I don't want to upset her, or remind her of her baby,
or say something that will make her cry."
We want to tell them: "The only way you can make me feel worse than I
already do is to pretend that it doesn't exist or that it isn't as deep
and painful as you surely know it is.
Have you ever experienced the feeling of having one terrible incident go
through your mind, day after day, week after week, month after month,
wondering why it happened and how you could have prevented it? Well,
don't worry about reminding us of our children. We are thinking about
them nearly twenty-four hours a day.
"Sure, sometimes our minds are temporarily distracted--it would have to
be to function at all. But if you think there is even one day that goes
by without our children’s death tearing up our hearts, then you have no
idea what this club is all about.
"We appreciate your talking about our children, or at least letting us
talk about them. They are a very large part of our lives, and ignoring
them now will really hurt us. It makes us think that you feel they are
no longer important because they are gone. It hurts to think that
people don't want to think about them or remember good things about
them, just because they have died.
"We understand that you don't want to say anything that will make us
cry. That sounds kind, and we used to feel that way too, but now we know
better. We’d rather the tears didn't come when you talk to us because we
know they may scare you away, or at least make you very uncomfortable.
"But we've learned how useful and necessary they are. If we go too long
without tears, our body builds up a terrible pressure from the pain of
the grief. If you will allow us to cry in your presence, perhaps we
won't have to cry alone, wondering if anyone else remembers, or even
cares, about our loss."
"You can't know what will make us cry--sometimes we don't know,
ourselves. Some days we stay dry-eyed through nearly everything. Other
days, the slightest thing will start the tears--things you could not
possibly imagine or anticipate. Not all the tears are tears of sorrow.
Even in the midst of our anguish, We sometimes cry tears of joy and
relief because you have reached out; because you have confirmed that our
children were special; perhaps because you have shared with us
some precious memory about them which we had not known before."
"Please don't run away from us. Don't pretend their death never occurred,
or even worse, that they never lived! We still love them, think of them,
need to remember. Please share with us and we will all feel better."
"We are learning that God is not punishing us. He did not cause the
death of our children. But, He can help us to grow through this
experience--to become stronger and wiser and more caring, if we have
some help. Initially, when we were told that we would change and grow
stronger through this experience, we wanted to scream that if it meant
giving up our children, We didn't want to change or get stronger. But we
know we have no choice about that now--they are gone. Now our choices
are to either let God, and friends, help us to become better; or we can
choose to allow this grief to destroy us."
We have to experience the grief. We can't pretend it doesn't hurt, or
hurry it along. That's what membership in this club is teaching us. We
are choosing to allow God to take an unspeakable experience and use it
to start life again...in a new and better way."
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Trish 
~ C ~ 1/9/04
Jason 
Phil .. Arden 6 
Tyson 18months ..9angels..
IUI #7 - Success!!!! 
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