What do you think is right?

[Glamourcide]

I'll try to make this as short as possible lol, but you all know I tend to ramble on...
I have a bit of a dilemma and I'd like your opinions and advice, because I'm feeling a bit bad atm and don't know what to do.

Last weekend my friend and I attended a fashion parade, and got tickets for lucky door prizes at the door. I didn't expect to win anything so I was really surprised when my ticket number was called out - I'd won four free movie passes.
I brought them home and showed DH (I was trying to deflect his attention from the fact that I was a bit glassy-eyed from too much alcohol, oops!) and he seemed pretty happy - promised we'd go on a couple of 'date night'-type things, seeing as we NEVER do anything as a couple. To be honest, there are maybe three times we've gone out without the kids - a) to his work Christmas party when DD1 was four months old, b) to dinner on our first wedding anniversary, and c) when he drove me to the hospital to give birth to DD2. So, yeah - it's not often we get the opportunity to do things as a couple and have time to ourselves, and it's been a bit of an issue in our relationship lately. I was excited to have the perfect opportunity to do this, as it isn't going to cost him any money (his major excuse for not wanting to take me out).

Then this morning on Facebook (oh, that evil of evils! The trouble it brings about!), I was talking about the new single from 'New Moon' and saying how excited I was for it to come out so I could go and see it at the movies (the last time I went to the movies was with my friend last year to see 'Twilight' and before that, it was when I was in high school). My friend piped up about how 'it's a date - you, me, the girls and those free movie passes!'

Now, I think it's kind of rude that my friend would just assume I'm going to use my prize on her and *her* friends (the other girls aren't my friends, just girls I've met two or three times at my friend's house, I don't know them at all really), let alone that I would take her to the movies over my lovely DH, who never gets out of the house and deserves a night off from kids and cr@p TV shows because we can't afford to go out.
I tried to keep it lighthearted, saying, 'Lol you miss out this time, I'm dragging DH with me, might use the other two passes for you and me to catch a movie sometime' but now I feel kind of bad. And then, on the other hand, kind of mad because I want *two* 'dates' with DH, not just one!

Am I being rude for not sharing my prize with my friend as well as my DH, or would you keep the four tickets to yourself and treat your man to a couple of nights off from being 'Dad'? I don't know what to do and I feel bad. :/

Thanks in advance for any opinions!

[sneakysparkle]

dont feel bad hun - you have a right to use the tickets as you please - and thats not nasty!
Definitely not being rude. Enjoy yourself and the time with DH, Im sure youre friend will be fine!

[entreat]

no rudeness at all. You won them, you use them. I wouldn't be cut if my guest had won stuff.

Although people are funny. I went to a work Trivia night with DH & we won three prizes! Door prize & two prizes from the silly games. People were cranky with us! what's up with that?!!?!?

[Manhattan]

They're yours to do as you please! No need to feel bad about using them however you want, if you and DH need a treat, then go for it hun. You dont have to explain yourself to anyone, I certainly wouldnt. And thinking about it, your friend has prob got you right where she wants, trying to guilt you into sharing 'your' prize with her, which isnt very nice of her at all.

Go and enjoy yourself....I know I would

[Arimeh]

Dude - they are YOUR passes. Use them as you wish. If she wants to do something with free passes she can win some herself!!!

I say go with your DH - on BOTH dates.

[moon child]

you deserve those dates with hubs. dump the friends...oh, women, women, we are so silly sometimes

[tk1999]

I would be going out with DH for two movie dates! Grr to your friend!

[feeb]

pfft you won them you use them how you want to!! How rude of her to assume that she would get to use them with you!

[lollybaby]

Keep those tix to yourself hun, and go on TWO dates with your DH. And don't feel sorry or guilty about it for one minute.

[Marlene]

Ok, here is some practical advice for you, if you want it.

Blame DH!!!! hahahahaha

Tell your friend that DH was so excited that you won the four passes and that if you don't go on two dates to the movies with him he may just divorce you! LOL

Whenever you're in a sticky situation....just blame the men!!!!

[Muppity]

Originally Posted by Marlene

Ok, here is some practical advice for you, if you want it.

Blame DH!!!! hahahahaha

Tell your friend that DH was so excited that you won the four passes and that if you don't go on two dates to the movies with him he may just divorce you! LOL

Whenever you're in a sticky situation....just blame the men!!!!

I would just keep quiet about it and if she is rude enought to bring it up again use that excuse!

[Astrid]

I think it is natural when you are around someone who wins something to want a share of it. I know I have often felt that way, like when going to a work conference and one of the team gets the bottle of champagne, I feel like I deserve some as well. Saying that though, if they were definitely awarded to you, then they are yours to do with what you wish.

Just wondering if you said something at the time of winning them that may have made her think that you would share them with her?

[Rouge]

Just say "Sorry they've already been claimed. I've got two dates to go on with a gorgeous man!" And then promptly anonymously mail a book on etiquette and highlight the bits about not asking for things!

[mrsmac]

I agree with Marlene, always blame DH!!!
Sometimes i think facebook can be a bad thing LOL

[Trillian]

That's kinda like giving someone a scratchy ticket for their birthday and then expecting half of the prize if they win big kwim? You don't owe her anything and I would just use the them for yourself.

[CrazyLady]

Originally Posted by Arimeh

Dude - I say go with your DH - on BOTH dates.

Don't feel bad at all hun. How i wish I could have a date with DP. It's amazing how a night with just the 2 of you can refresh the relationship and relax the soul.

I actually think it was rude your friend assumed she'd get them and was trying to tell you how to use them but that's just me.

[CrazyLady]

Originally Posted by Rouge

Just say "Sorry they've already been claimed. I've got two dates to go on with a gorgeous man!" And then promptly anonymously mail a book on etiquette and highlight the bits about not asking for things!

Sorry, second post but I forgot the multi quote thing. I love the way you think Rouge!

[Glamourcide]

Wow, thanks ladies I was *pretty* sure I wasn't crazy in thinking I wouldn't be mean to not share them with her, but just needed to hear it from others because I know how tricky these situations can be!
Now, to wait until we have a free Friday or Saturday night so we can treat ourselves Thanks so much for the feedback, girls.

ETA: Lol Marlene, I usually *do* blame DH for things when I get stuck hahaha - 'Oh, no, sorry we can't do x this weekend, DH is buggered from work,' etc lol I think he's getting shirty with looking like the bad guy all the time hahaha Either him, or it's the kids I lay it on 'Oh, sorry, the baby's teething and miserable, we might just stay home' hahaha...