Gay & Lesbian Pregnancy General Chatter #1

[~Leasha~]

LOL DrGirl... I know just what you mean. After this BFN and the news about the cyst, I was convinced my body just isn't meant to be pregnant, that I am infertile, and that I was somehow responsible... Luckily I had my SIL who also had problems TTC their 3rd girl, so was able to give me some lovely advice, and also almost bought me a puppy lol! I don't know about a 'sperm food' diet... I have heard a lot of info about getting the sperm count up, but don't know much about it. You could probably start a thread in the conception board, I think a lot of people there would know what you are talking about.

Good luck for next time.

Curmon, bugger about the OHSS... I worry every time I take Clomid if that will happen... Good luck with this cycle!

And congrats to Uncle Amy on the arrival of her little prince!!!!!

[Kerry&Linda]

We are kerry & Linda and we are wanting to have a baby yayaya. we have read all you gals chatting away about all kinds of treatments and drugs and cycles. We feel so niave and overwhelmed. we have only just starting looking into the how, and where side of having a baby. Our only issue is we are in WA and among all the fertility websites we have searched, the issue of lesbian couples wanting to concieve is completely sidestepped and we have no idea where to start or who we can go to see. We would like to see a fertility specialist that does not discriminate based on sexuality and one that is going to be able to help us make the steps towards becoming pregnant. Can anybody give us any advice.

[babysteps]

Kerry & Linda,
Hi, I've just joined BB and saw your post tonight about fertility specialists in WA. I don't know if you've started any steps since you posted, but I can recommend Pivet for being very friendly towards us (my file has "Same Sex Couple" highlighted under my name, which means I don't have to explain myself or correct the nurses when I talk to them). I also know of a few women who have gone through Concept who say they were also helpful.

[BonanzaJellybean]

Well, there isn't much I can do now, it's all up to mother nature.

Everything seems to be on track, Still no LH surge which is good. It normally appears on Day 13.

I'm not getting my hopes up too high, just going away for a holiday........(and the rest! LOL!)

I read somewhere this can be really really trying, like when day 28 comes and so does 'Harry!".......has been described as thinking you are pregnant and misscarring when really you may have just missed the target, if that makes sence.

This is still really new to me so I guess its a learning process.

GP wants to see me as soon as I get back......probably so he can order bloods to see if I am?

Anyhow I hope eveyone else TTC has success this time round too.

[leather & lace]

This is a big shout out to BONANZA!!!!

Good luck for tomorrow, how excited you must be!!!!!!

Hope she finds her way

Sending you lots of

[BonanzaJellybean]

I m not sure what I should do! I'm over due for my period, all my preg tests have been negative to date, my emotions are all over the place....not knowing if I am or Im not is past the 2ww and Dr says Im not pregnant and my period will start again soon!

Well.........I'm still waiting!!!!!! And why do my BB hurt so much and why have I had these cramps since day 16 of my cycle? (after C.D 14) and Why is my older sister having morning sickness when she only gets it when someone in the family is pregnant (and she lives 700km away!)

So do I stop taking my folate and chuck it in!!!!!!!????? Im going nuts on this see-saw, No-maybe-no-maybe-no......AAARRRGGHHH!!!!!!!!!!!or have i just got a big dose of ???????????????

[babysteps]

Bonanza, that sucks I know. My AF was a week late after my first IUI, I think that was due to the luteul support hormones that I was on until I had my negative blood test.

If the doctors have done a blood test and say you're not pregnant, I'd say that they're probably correct.

Although as everyone else says, it's not over until AF rears her head.

*fingers crossed for you*

[BonanzaJellybean]

Oh well, Now what? A.F is on her way! Aint got another $1000 to go back down to my donor, not enough scripts yet to go to Sydney IVF on safety net medicare rebate!

Do I go it alone with the new B/F.......if he knew I was bisexual he'd DIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!![and deal with the issue if it turns into one that its not his kid I want! because then that makes him STUCK to me eternally!, at least if its a Donor there is NO ATTATCHMENT 'COMMITMENT' sought!] Apologies if that sounds bad!

I must say all this insemination bizo reminded me of why i don't like sex with blokes even though I am still attracked to them!.....groase! Its the three days after that makes me sick when its all coming back out! Sorry T.M.I!!!!!!!!!! But yeah! YUK!
God should have made us self pollinating/asexual then we wouldn't need to go through so much B.S!

[DavidG24]

G'day everyone,

I originally posted the following message in the introduction section and was refered to post it in this section

First off, I don't want to misrepresent myself, I am a male and thus forth not a Lesbian, I have a Gay Sister and she and her partner are trying to get pregnant via intravenous methods and so far they haven't had much luck with as you can imagine is getting them down.

I'm trying to help them out as much as possible, and was hoping I would be able to hear some 'hints and tips' so to speak to help them get pregnant. I love my sister to death and want her to be happy above almost everything else in my life and so any advice that could be put forward would be greatly appreciated.

David

[issysunshine]

My sister and her partner are concidering become parents in the future but they both leading very busy lives at the moment has asked me to do some research which i have found easily on the conception side of things but they have some concerns about once the children go to school and the issues they may face there and also they want the child/ren to call them both mum, how would this would would it be confusing when baby calles out mum you are not sure which one baby wants to go too??? Any advise that i could pass on would be invaluable. I hope to try and get my sister on here in the future to get her a network of friends who are in the same situation as herself and her partner who maybe able to calm their fears.

Issy

[Indigograce]

Hi, I'm new to this site! Hope the discussions keep flowing.

My partner and I are eagerly expecting twins - concieved through known donor insemination. We've just been to our first antenatal class
One of the tricky decisions for us has been deciding what my parter will be called. I have two children from a previous (hetro) marriage and am the birth mother to the twins so it will make sense for me to continue to be called 'Mum' - but my partner understandably would like to have a name that recognises her parent status to the babies. We considered both being called Mum, but thought it might get confusing for the babies. The best we can come up with is Mama or Ma. I'd be keen to hear how other people have tackled this situation!

Possilbly a bit late to add to this, but regarding legal parenting rights, in WA we are able to add a same sex parent to the birth certificate which would give legal recognition of that persons parenting role. Hooray! It has been hard with our other children knowing that if something happened to me, the kids could easily be taken off my partner and given to thier somewhat useless father and she would have no rights to access even though she has been parenting them for the last 7 years.

[~Leasha~]

Hi Indigograce,

WELCOME

We are both mum, and surprisingly the person who has the LEAST trouble with it is Jazz! If I say, go find mum, she goes and finds Shel. If Shel says, no go to mum, Jazz will come to me. If Jazz calls mum, one of us (usually both LOL!) will go to her. She understands, and in my mind its no different to having two grandmothers KWIM? Kids are smart cookies. It's the rest of us that thinks its confusing!
To start off with we were going to go mum and mumma, but Jazz calls us both mum and mumma, so she's making up her own mind, which we decided is good enough for us.

GREAT news about the birth certificate! We're hoping Qld will add that soon too, and make it retrospective so we can gain some recognition. It is so scary to think that in a time of crisis and grieving, that a family could be split apart thanks to some dumb idiotic archaeic people who think we aren't a family.