Donor Conception General Chatter # 9

[blizz]

from all of us here Gargy and Montyp

[Malyna]

Gargy - sending love and positive thoughts your way.

[Lieve]

Oh gargy - I'm so sorry for you and montyp. and lots of love and strength to you both.

[blizz]

Hi all,
well DH has gone back to work tonight for the first time since we had Angus, he found it really hard to leave and I found it really hard to see him go, it has confirmed in our minds that the mining game is only going to be a short step in our lives it has given DH the desire to try to expand his buisiness to the point where it will enable him to work from home, I really hate having him away but mining was an itch he had to scratch (if you know what I mean) he would have regretted not giving it a try when the opportunity came up, we just didn't count on how lonely and hard it is having him away and him being away from the family for 5 days at a time, the extra time off is great but he is often working in his own part time buisiness on these days.

oh well, I'll get the hang of it soon, I've just been spoilt, but on the plus side youguys get me back a bit more reguarly (well I hope you see it as a plus???)

We had some more good news today, we are still not getting to excited due to previous experiences but DH and his sisters signed a contract of sale on his mother's house to a couple from Queensland somewhere, pending finance, so if all goes to plan we will be able to have the sale finalised by early January (due to the christmas new year break) and we will finally be able to concentrate on moving ahead , We have almost decided to buy a camper trailer with some of DH's inheritance after lengthy discussions we have always loved camping but with two very small children the idea of tent camping has now lost it's appeal some what, and with the unpredictability of Tassie weather this will mean we can get away more reguarly than we have before.
DH was going to buy a new motorbike but has come to the conclusion that the campervan will give him more joy due to the fact that we can't both go on the bike anymore (I was never really that keen on the bike anyway but it is totally his decision I've told him it's his inheritence so he can spend it how he chooses)
so this will mean we'll buy the trailer tent and put the rest of the money off our house.
but like I said before we won't count our chickens this time after getting burnt with high hopes last time

well Paige is building a house....which involves moving all of her belongings in to the doorway of the study and then adding the contents of her brothers wardrobe and all of the dirty laundry and mixing it with all of the clean and folded washing so unless I wish to spend my night pulling down her house I best go and intervene

[Joy08]

Gargy - I am very sorry for you and Montyp... am thinking of you both..

[Joy08]

Hi all

Just giving you a quick update on things! We had our FET today... all went well. They only had to thaw 1 embie and during the thaw it started growing a little more! So it was a 9 cell that was transferred. Had an acupuncture session straight after and now just chillin on the sofa for the evening Hopefully I will keep calm & relaxed during this TWW!

[SeaChange]

Brilliant news Joy! Hope everything goes well!

[blizz]

goodluck Joy...put your feet up and take it easy hon

[Malyna]

Good Luck Joy!

Blizz - I hear you on the DH front - mine has been interstate for 6 of the last 8 weeks - am over seeing him leaving on a jet plane, the flight delays etc.. I guess that's what happens when your employer is 1500km away though..not sure what we are going to do when bubs arrives - there is his mum who lives about 30minutes away but she's made it quite clear that while she loves her grandchildren, that she has her own life, so I'll be pretty much it (unless there is a cyclone or some other extreme event).

[blizz]

hey Tarkine, I'll come over and baby sit for you any time hon, that is if you trust some crazy lady you met on the internet??? and besides Paige LOVES babies.
I am hearing you, i am lucky cause I have family here but ....i really want my mum!!! but due to circumstances beyond her and my control it is not to be.
Well I need to toddle off to bed so I don't get caught out with no sleep now that I can't send DH to DD when she cries, I have to try to juggle both of them..(already finding it a little challenging)

[Malyna]

blizz.. more than welcome to come on over and baby sit - must be hard with two littles and DH away - money is such a sucky thing!!

[SD2001]

Not exactly the same situation but it got me thinking ... A number of my recipient families gave birth to twins. I expect it is a lot of work to look after twins as opposed to a single child. Would this make the experience potentially stressful/bad for new families?

[blizz]

I don't really know SD,
as much as I whinge I really wouldn't have it any other way, it is just the settling in factor that I find a little challenging and the fact that Paige has chosen this week to start the jealous older sister missing out on attention thing!!!!, when DH is home it is easy to hand off the bubba and spend time with DD, but on my own I can't really give her the quality time she needs with bubba screaming out for attention (often quite loudly)

I do take my hat of to mums of twins I don't know how they do it but as for the adding of stress when you get two instead of one all I can think of is that most people in our position would be absolutely honoured to have even one let alone two bubbas so I guess the initial shock would be replaced with excitement fairly quickly...the financial issue I am not sure about either as I have to work in some form or another anyway, the bonus given by the government would go a long way to helping set up the expensive items of twins I would think ie, two cots, big prams, zillions of clothes and nappies.
I am glad I am not having to be a single mum to twins with DH away though I really would go insane!!!

[SeaChange]

SD - really interesting question.

For myself I would be absolutely delighted to have twins. I would be absolutely delighted to have one baby - or even siblings. I'd say most people receiving donations feel the same way.

Sometimes, yes, having a baby takes its toll on marriages, and on mental health. There are many examples of this on our forum.

However for most people, although times get tough, they manage to battle through. I know this from my mother's situation - she had 5 children, and although she loved us dearly there were times she would have happily traded us to the pixies!

I think the other issue is that the networks that my mother had (ie having her mother living in the next suburb) are not available to as many people these days. My mother has also made it very clear that she has raised her own children - she will not be available to raise mine.

Hey Blizz aka crazy lady on the internet! How are you doing today? Hope its less stressful with Angus and Paige.

Joy - how are you doing?

Tarkine

to everyone else!

Got some good news today - I've been told which school I'm going to. I gave them a call today and I'll be meeting with them next week. Looking forward to it!

[Malyna]

Originally Posted by SD2001

Not exactly the same situation but it got me thinking ... A number of my recipient families gave birth to twins. I expect it is a lot of work to look after twins as opposed to a single child. Would this make the experience potentially stressful/bad for new families?

SD2001 - I would have just gone with the flow as I do with all things in my life if I had been told I was having twins - I know there was the case in the ACT a few years ago where a couple only wanted one, but got two and went to court over it.

I watch jon and kate plus 8 on Oprah a few months back, and Kate told of the devastation they both felt when they went for the first ultrasound (after having twins) to find out there were 7 babies in her womb - 6 survived and she found the first 1 quite a trial. She was on fertility drugs and they had only wanted to have one -but were given 6. They were also offered the choice of having selective reduction but refused.

Blizz - I love you, you crazy women on the internet!! (although I think that should be my title )

Gargy - yah on hearing about the new school. it all works out for you sweetie

DH came home with the news that its not a case of if the company he works for goes bust, its a case of when. Will know more monday, but I think DH might be a stay at home dad for a bit Hope he's good with nappies

[blizz]

Hi all,
well one more night to go till DH is home again....yay!!!
I am feeling a little better tonight, I cheated, I had a night off Angus's 'witching hour' (more like hours!!!) by lobbing on my sil's doorstep last night, they cooked us tea and entertained and wore out Paige and passed around Angus between his aunt, Uncle and three cousins which kept him happy till 9 o'clock so I basically just had to come home and put them both in to bed.
did a similar thing today and visited my youngest brother and his family and he entertained Paige and she played with her youngest cousin and got to check out the chooks helping to feed them and to collect the eggs (wasn't keen on patting them) they are the tamest chooks I think I've seen
so I think I'll stay sane this time around!!!!
though this mornings visit was almost a panicked visit so I could at least get a shower and bath Paige I just haven't been able to juggle the bathing thing for both children yet.
but I did manage to get us both clean before we headed out the door (Angus's turn is earmarked for tomorrow morning)

Gargy, glad to hear you know about your new school, how exciting, it's got to be an omen for a fresh start in 2009 I am sure of it!!!

Tarkine, wow I hope all is OK for you both...as for dirty nappies...my guess is he will learn pretty quickly
love to everyone else I need to go and poke Angus he's been asleep since 4pm I think i might be in for a long night, if he is kind to his mumma I may be back later if I don't reappear you can bet that he hasn't been kind to me!!!!

[SeaChange]

Blizz,

Good on you - getting out and about and visiting people. And the bypassing of witching hour is an added bonus!

Tarkine,

My heart goes out to you having been through the whole pain of retrenchment - both myself and DH. Actually the retrenchment sword of Damascus just missed DH this year again. I hope your DH either finds a job really soon or enjoys being a SAHD.

As for myself - had a great couple of days! Firstly we got to see our gorgeous godchild when we caught up with our friends on Saturday night.

Then today we went out with more friends including our donor. It was a lot of fun!

Hope everyone had a great weekend.

PS - I'm also liking my new avie!!

[blizz]

Hi all,
not staying for long as I am feeling totally exhausted
Gargy, I love the new avvie you look georgeous and very festive

the witching hour finally got to me so now that I have my little charges in bed i am off to lick my wounds (see blog http://bellybelly.com.au/forums/blog...melt-down.html for details) I am not sure if my head ache is stress related or the result of a head butting crash with paige earlier tonight ( I can now sympathise with my brother as to how hard Paiges head actually is)