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Comforted Sleeping - No-Cry Sleep Solutions For those who choose to comfort their baby to sleep, co-sleep or use any other methods of no-cry, gentle sleeping. Share experiences and seek advice from other mums doing the same if you are looking for gentle answers on sleeping issues. This is NOT a forum for Controlled Crying or other cry it out sleep methods. Please post these discussions in General Baby Discussion or they will be removed.


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Old June 22nd, 2009, 03:50 PM
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Does anyone else ever get to the point that they think that this gentle parenting just doesnt work???

I do not/ could not smack, i do not want to even go there...

I just mean that its not always easy to remember to be the adult, not get frustrated and just love them...
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I use the corner. I don't know if that counts as gentle parenting or not but I don't smack either and I think it works I think it's about finding what makes your kids pay attention, mine HATE the corner.
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My miss5 hate the corner....there in NOTHING my miss2.10month hates... She is like "bring it on mum".
I love her spirit but boy talk about knocking your head against a wall!

I guess i started the thread not for answers just reassurence that other people get to the guilt point of "what next..."
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Totally feel the same!

Your not alone hun! Hope it gets better soon xx
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you are not the only one. we are all human and i think this way only when i am at the end of my tether, i always come to my senses again and realise that it is a conscious decision and how i want to raise my child. These times usually pass.
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Hey Love,

You are definitely not alone in feeling that way. I think it is a stage that every parent goes through with their children, I remember going through it with DS, and am currently having my own issues with DD.
The important thing is, you realise what you are doing, and you make adjustments accordingly.
But, to give you a short answer to your initial question, yes, sometimes I wonder if it is all worth it...then, I get a comment from someone like "Wow she is such a calm baby". Now I will usually reply with "Yeah but you don't see her at 3am" but then think to myself, Yes, she IS a calm baby and I know why, because of the way we parent.

End of the day hunny, you do what is right for you, you can't be 100% sane and rational 100% of the time, so its ok to have a bit of a break in straight forward thinking!

Good luck

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you are definitely not alone. i think as 'gentle' parents we are so hard on ourselves. we want to be perfect in every decision and action to do with our parenting. but it's just not possible! we're human - we have emotions too and it's completely normal to feel frustrated/angry/helpless at times. i certainly have times when i feel this way and wonder if my gentle parenting is what makes me so frustrated. but then i look at DS and picture his future. it's all worth it! i find that in those moments it helps to take a breath and have a little daydream about what DS will be like in 5, 10 and 20 years.

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