So frustrated with this charting BS & only month 1 *irrational vent ahead* - Pregnancy, Birth & Baby Forums ~ BellyBelly

LimeSlice · #1 (**permalink**) October 11th, 2009, 10:36 PM

So I am using fertility friend. Excellent, very informative, etc feeling all empowered and all that jazz. Ace.

I happened to decide charting the day i got AF -bonus! That has to be good doesn't it? To start at the start. I even actually quit smoking that day also *

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So I put all the info in, I had no OPKs so no definitive answers on Oing, but according to the chart I O'd CD10. Early, but not abnormal I m told, and understanding that this was only my first chart, not necessarily reliable.
So we DTD (we are swaying for a boy, so timing is important) all good

Then a few days later, i put in my temps etc ad got told that now my chart had changed and I hadn't O'd but was now fertile. So we DTD. The next day I put in the info and it changed AGAIN telling me I had infact O'd on CD 10. Ace cool.

Well now I have put in all the info for today, and added some 'specifics', and it is telling me again that I haven't Od that it can detect - I'm on CD 20!!!

So now I am all confused again lol This is ticking me off, Im not in the best of moods, I feel sick and irritable and tired and have backache, so not happy anyway.

According to the CD10 O date, I need to test on the 19th. Well I did one today anyway (because my nails are growing and really really white, and the only time that happens like this is when I am pregnant) so that was BFN.

How do people do this for months and years on end?? It is ****ing me off and I am only 20 days in!! (makes really think about how much I want a boy, cos if we didnt we would just be BDing all the time lol)

GRRR *vent over now*

Winter · #2 (**permalink**) October 11th, 2009, 10:40 PM

Firstly can I just say a BIG congrats for quitting smoking?! Go you good thing!!

And yep, I hear you on the charting bollocks! Good luck though hun, its soooo exciting really!

LimeSlice · #3 (**permalink**) October 11th, 2009, 10:48 PM

Thanks

20 days and all is well. I think it is easy when you wake up one morning and realise that you are just over it...13 years is a looong time!

Yeah, not feeling the excitement so much today

Winter · #4 (**permalink**) October 11th, 2009, 10:51 PM

For quitting these are the hardest times -3 weeks, 3 months, 3 years!! You're almost over the first hurdle!

~Raven~ · #5 (**permalink**) October 12th, 2009, 07:58 AM

FF is a crock! It never gave me a definite O day till either AF shows up or I told it I got a BFP. Caused more frustration that anything in my case

That is all

ps 20 days is great too!

rhyb · #6 (**permalink**) October 12th, 2009, 08:35 AM

Way to go on quitting smoking Alexys

WRT charting Id be hopeless but Im sure theres plenty of people here that can help you with your chart

Liz · #7 (**permalink**) October 16th, 2009, 07:30 AM

ooh... you're TTCing! And congrats on quitting smoking!

You should try charting a 50+ day cycle LOL... THAT's frustrating! I did believe my chart tho, as frustrating as it was having a positive opk and nothing happening.. coz I have charted before and I know I see a definite shift in my temps when I've O'd. Are you charting you CM as well? FF relies a lot on CM for fertility times and relies mostly on the temp shift for confirming O. Taking your temp at different times or not getting enough sleep beforehand can change your temps and make them erratic and hard to analyse. I thought I was having this problem (with two kids that give me broken sleep from about 3am onwards!) but I can still see a definite shift in my temps, so it hasn't been too much of a prob for me.

My advice for swaying for a boy (worked for us

) is to use OPK's because this tells you you're about to ovulate and go for it right up until your temp rise.. if you wait for the temp rise.. you can miss the egg altogether.

Good luck with your 2WW.. when are you testing again? I'm testing on Monday

Kate07 · #8 (**permalink**) October 16th, 2009, 07:41 AM

That's how my little Oops is here. According to FF, i was past the fertile stage. So, thought i was safe. Then FF changed my O date. Oops.

Liz · #9 (**permalink**) October 16th, 2009, 07:46 AM

Oh no Kate! LOL. Altho I think FF does say not to use charting as contraception

I'm sure you'll enjoy your surprise bundle

snugglybean · #10 (**permalink**) October 16th, 2009, 10:23 AM

My first charted cycle was like that - tried to tell me I had O'd on CD 7 or something ridiculous, then 17 (correct) and then later told me not at all. now that I've done it for longer though, I know how to recognise the anomalies and outliers that make it happen, and I find it really handy. Well, I did, when my cycle was normal. It'll come back. Soon enough.
Give it some time, the first one might just be rubbish, or a bit of a learning curve.

I hope you get your boy!

juniper76 · #11 (**permalink**) October 20th, 2009, 02:04 PM

It took me a while to get the hang of charting. At first I didn't realise how important consistent timing was, etc. I also started off originally with a mercury thermometer...

After 2 years of it, I now have a much better idea of when to accept or reject FF's interpretation. For example, this cycle it tried to tell me I O'd on CD12, which I knew was complete rot because I know my post-O temps are over 36.5. Once I actually had 3 temps over 36.5 it shifted my O day to CD16 (which I agree with).

Hopefully you'll get your BFP before you have time to become an expert on charting!