Hugs babe! I dont have much help to give but I just wanted you to know Im thinking of you.
Bella sometimes does the holding on to me thing when I put her into her cot but I just stroke her head and say its time for sleep and when she lets go I gove her her dummy and turn her mobile on and go, how ever Bella slef settles nearly evey night unless she falls asleep while drinking her last bottle.
As for the kicking off the doona thing Bella used to do that - so now she sleeps in a long sleeve fleecy sleeping bag on top of her PJ's and I have a blanket tucked around the cot matress so I can tuck her in tightly and she cant kick it off - she can still get her arm out, and now if the blanket comes loose or
DH doesnt do it tight enough she wakes up = I think the tighness makes her feel snugg and safe,
Sorry no real help!!
Kate xox