I have two boys and a girl, my first boy was an Angel always did what he was told and was so placid. My number two boy came along and from the very beginning he was a challege to me. He is so mischievous, into everything and just does not listen to instruction. If I went mad on him he would get worse. I have come to realise I have to repremand him but without yelling and use things like time out etc.. He is now 3.5 and is getting better, but consistency is the key! You have to do the same thing everytime be right onto them. Find out what their currency is, as it is different for every child and it may change. It is tiring but it will work, but it does take time. In regards to the pooing and weeing in the room when they get into trouble, I too had this problem with him. I discovered a spot in the corner of the room behind a cupboard where he would go and wee when he got into trouble. My son's share a room and my older boy caught him pulling down his pants and weeing on the floor just after he got into trouble. I realised that he was doing it because he was angry with me and he knew this would upset me. So I got out an old nappy and made him clean up the wee himself. We then got out the mop and mopped the floor and put the old nappy in the washing machine. He complained the whole time and I told him everytime he did a wee on the floor he was going to be the one to clean it up. I asked him why I should do clean it when he was the one doing it on purpose. He has never done it again.
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