Hi Oleary,
I could have written that exact post a few weeks ago. After about 6 weeks of constant waking I finally booked into sleep school as I jsut couldn't take it anymore. Our problem was that we were rocking
DD to sleep in our arms and then transferring her to her bed, so whenever she woke she needed us to resettle. We now put her in her cot awake and pat her until she's almost asleep (and shhh or sing to her aswell) but leave so she puts herself to sleep. Now I hear her wake in the night (not crying or anything just a few grunts here and there) but she can now resettle herself. She still wakes once (sometimes twice on a bad night) for a feed but it's such an improvement from what she was like a few weeks ago.
How do you put your bub to sleep? If she already self settles I'm afraid I can't be of much help. But if she doesn't, maybe it's something worth trying. I don't agree with control crying either and I never let
DD cry herself to sleep, I was always there comforting her.
HTH!