Sorry I missed this.
He sounds so much like M at times... then again Lulu's M and my M are twins separated prior to birth I'm pretty sure.....
Its really hard, the times I start to relax are the ones when I'm tearing my hair out over her behaviour. So I can understand that.
Food can also play a huge part in behaviour as well.
Matilda has multiple food allergies, she has something called Sensory Processing Disorder (you may want to have a read on that one) and is an extremely strong willed individual.
My advice for today *just breath* in* out* in* out....