hi there sparkynwell and redlady!
as far as harvesting eggs go, I would assume you would have to see a fertility specialist (clinic) for that. I dont believe its necessary just because you're 37, the only difference here in getting pregnant is you are self inseminating unless your doctor tells you differently. The donor should be screened as you know but stds and HIV are not the only tests that should be done, you can find this info on the net. If I could remember where I found it I would share it but I cant as it was sometime ago. either way, your doc should be able to tell you. these tests range from blood group to herpes simplex and the like. As far as him getting tested, if he uses a doc that isnt yours then his doc and your doc can be in communication with both parties consent. I guess it would be easier if he went to your doc and was screened but sometimes this doesnt agree with one or the other.
As far as waiting for sperm to become available because of the lack of donors in this country, there are many clinics who provide overseas donor sperm, depends on how long you want to wait and your preference to geneology.
Redlady, you dont need to apologise for being straight, you are who you are and are excepted for who you are, so quit apologising please
lol its good to have difference here and I look forward to seeing msgs about your journey..
Sparkynwell, goodluck and its good to see another couple ttc in here, everyones story is helpful to another!