Hi,
Im not gay but would like to offer my experiences and the knowledge that I know. I hope you don't mind.
My husband and I have to wait a long period till a sperm donor becomes available because of the change in the laws. When a child turns 18yrs they can find their biological father. So alot of men disappeared and don't donate anymore.
So we have found a man who is willing to donate. We are thinking of home insemination as the costs are alot less than IVF and we would be able to start our dream of having a family sooner. We have asked him to have HIV and an STD test first.
Our donor happens to have 4 children of his own and just wants to help someone have their family. He doesn't feel like it will be his children rather than our children. Its merely giving a gift to us in the way of making a family. We are happy that he doesn't want on going contact.
That is also a choice you will have to make if you decide on donor. Home insemination or IVF clinic. I hope IVF clinics have come into the light and do help gay couples become parents too.
If you want the donors sperm sample tested then I think a GP can give you a form. Afterall thats what the GP did for my husbands sperm sample test. In the end his sperm can't be used and thats why we are using a donor.
I hope this helps. Im sorry Im not gay but I thought this might help.
bye for now
redlady
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