We are actually doing ok now.
We've cut out lots of foods. Pretty much anything with colouring. Especially yellow. It sets DD2 off like you wouldn't believe.
The only juice they have is apple on occasion, otherwise its milk or water. Found out the other day that DD2 can't even have pop corn. MSG. I gave her the wrong type with out thinking. She can't even have home brand nurofen coz its orange, so has yellow in it!
Also we moved to the coast & to a smaller school where DD1 is alot happier. We are near my mum now, so have heaps of help & support.
Things are looking way up