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Originally Posted by Tegam 
You are very right about the "when its there turn they shout it to the world".....My sis has never been happy when i have told her i am UTD, and when she told me i cried (with relief - but she doesnt have to ever know that)....... The first time was because i was due 6 weeks after her wedding (she then dumped me as bridesmaid - was a very hard wedding to attend let me tell you) but maybe thats what you mean BG: that some people arent just that supportive type even when its not about TTC>>>>
I have been feeling guilty all just for just writting in this thread.......
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don't feel guilty about posting in here - you have thoughts you're trying to work through. i will say though that i agree with BW when she says
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Originally Posted by butterfly_warrior I'm sorry, but you don't always find that people who are pregnant after long term TTC or AC end up shouting it from the rooftops. For many, the disbelief and the worry are so strong that they can't really talk about the pregnancy at all.
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for many of us who've been through LTTTC there is a lot more worry than "normal" during pregnancy. i guess it is the same for those that have fallen
pg after a miscarriage. the doubt that your body will sustain a pregnancy is very strong in the first months - so your excitement is tainted with doubt and fear. i don't think i could name anyone in the PALTTC threads that would say their pregnancy has been free of fear. i guess you KNOW the outcome well before you would in normal circumstances (the bliss of not finding out til you're six or eight weeks!) and, as such, you're more aware of things like chemical pregnancies, early loss etc. you also over analyse everything (ms one day, not the next. boobs hurt yesterday but not today) and you live in fear going from BT to BT, scan to scan and never truly feeling that stress free thought of "i'm pregnant" and just enjoying it. there is a definite loss of naivity through the LTTTC journey, and i think it changes you in ways that you would never expect
GG - i'm sorry to hear about your SIL's BFN. it's never easy to get
AF when TTC - but i think it's harder when you KNOW that they put a healthy embryo in there - it makes you more attuned to the fact that there was a perfectly healthy, potential baby, placed in your womb, and for whatever reason, it didn't take. whether it tried or not, the pain is like that of an early miscarriage simply because there is no doubt that there was an embryo in there and your body couldn't help it. be there for your SIL when she needs you (which may be today, may not be for a couple of weeks) - if you can, suggest she become a member of BB or similar IVF related forums where she can get the support that she may feel she is unable to get from those around her IRL...