Waiting....so nice you can be there for your sister. I know that i couldnt offer that sort of support to anyone as i just know i couldnt give that baby back at the end of a pregnancy.
BG: Thanks for your long response. Really what you are saying is not really new to me. I have done all the above and yes sometimes it works. I asked this forum to be started in a way because I just needed somewhere i could vent my frustration at the situation. My
DH and i had such a hard time with my SIL i called my sister who ad only just started the process and stated that i was there for her, whatever she wanted. Whether that was me involved and talking about it or not. So she said yes yes i need to be able to talk to you, then the next time we are talking she is angry and yelling to me about how unfair it is that i know what she is doing and she has lost the chance to tell people the happy news that she is 10weeks! Well i cant change the fact that she told me when they were going to implant. OR my sil that came to our house, we new she had been implanted, she had said she didnt want to talk about it at the time so when we didnt hear we assumed that it didnt work. Then she came to our house and stayed 3 days, didnt eat any white cheese, didnt drink but was all quiet and reserved.....so
DH knows something had happened, knows his parents know, knows his other sister know but knows we arent allowed to ask. We were left wondering, was she, wasnt she, had she been and she had lost one???? So 6 weeks later she rings and tells
DH she is 10weeks and wonders why
DH just couldnt be 100% with her.......
I guess i fell that you are right somedays hearing about my kids kills her. But I have a life to and the kids are a big part of it and somedays it kills me not to be able to talk to my sis of sil about that stuff IYKWIM. LTTTC is an everyday thing and everyone is on eggshells because you dont know if its a good day. But after 6years of this in my family, when do i get to share the joy of my family, or when can it be ok that a mum has a bad day too and might need to vent????
I guess all i just want to do somedays is scream, i dont really care if they are pregnant or not, if they are trying this month or not. It wont really make a difference to my life either way......BUT I LOVE THEM and I WANT THEM TO BE HAPPY, thats the only reason I can hang in there. I would do anything to give them their dream but please stop the hot/cold relationship with us?????
BG: I am also honest with them and myself. I really have no idea what its like to go through what they are. But its like others that havent had a m/c, when they offered me their support, i new they didnt know but it didnt mean that it wasnt nice they tried????
Again hard not to come across as a B^&%H but this is meant to be a thread that allows that and not somewhere that LTTTC'ers get upset about hearing the other side. I real alot of the TTC threads, just trying to get a better understanding of what its like and i dont reply there when i feel that they are being unjust to some friend or relative that "would have not idea what its like"...
Hope no one is upset at me.