A c-section may have been the right thing for you and the little one. I was a birth partner at a birth that sounded similar to yours at the begining.
Unfortunately, the
Ob wouldn't listen to the midwife who was calling and took his time getting back. When a c-section was ordered, the anesthetist was then unavailable. Eventually, ventouse was tried thrice and finally forceps. The bub had been in distress way too long and had to be resuscitated. She spent the next week on life support. A Christening was performed at the hospital and life support was turned off, but thankfully, the bub had other ideas and decided to stick around. She is now a gorgeous 2 and a half year old, not walking yet due to the brain injury at birth, but she is an intelligent, determined little girl and will get there.
Many times there is unnecessary intervention in birth, but sometimes it is necessary. And sometimes, appropriate intervention is not done and it could have prevented a whole lot of other heartache.
Even though the intervention may have been the right thing to happen, You still have full rights to be upset that it wasn't the birth you were hoping for.
take care,
k