Olimoo, (this is my first ever contribution, so I'm not sure if I'm doing it right, etiquette etc.) My son (nearly 11) seems to have most of the signs of ODD, and I could emphathise with your visit to the Paed. I did the same thing, sat down with him to find out the school hadn't sent any info to the Dr. , so there I am trying to use great tact in front of DS to convey what I needed to the Dr. The Dr just didnt seem to appreciate this, and after doing basic things like weighing DS, basically just said 'well not everyone does well at school, so encourage him in the things he does do well with, like sport'. I was very annoyed at both the school principal and the Dr. and I wouldn't bother going back to him. My son mainly shows his anger and anxiety in front of me, and less in front of his father. He describes his father as 'gross' but DS will happily go to the footy and other places with his dad. I know his dad does have some less than ideal habits, but its DS's obsessive trait that makes him harp on about DH. He can't stand DH having any physical/affectionate contact with me. I am thankful that the school holidays are now over, because at least once every day, there would be a scene with him getting upset and pedantic over something, then going on to blame his father and sister for all of it, as usual! Recently, he keeps saying he wants to join Scouts, hopefully he will like it and get some benefit, but I'm pretty doubtful he'll enjoy the quiet stuff. He's just stressing now due to fraction/decimal maths homework he brought home last night, which he doesn't really understand or even want to, so it's not a great start to the new term.