[briggsy's girl]

i've had this thread at the back of my mind for a while now - trying to work out how to introduce some of it into conversation with my family without stepping on toes. they're really trying to be supportive (very trying!!) - but just have no idea. i had a bit of a hissy at my mum last night. after finding out that my IVF cycle hadn't worked, mum called my dad at work, who then called me late at night to say "keep your chin up" and some more unrelated and completely inappropriate BS - and i didn't take too kindly to it. anyway, something i put in my text message to my mum sorta felt like it should be in here:

knowing we're going through this is a priveledge, not a "right" - it's not about you, it's about US, and our wishes, our privacy, should be respected. if i'm having a hard time cos something hasn't worked, and i decide i don't want to hear from you, or that what you've said to me wasn't appropriate, deal with it - don't make this about you and how you "won't care in future" cos your gesture wasn't taken in the context it was meant - get over it! this journey is extremely taxing - both physically and emotionally - i don't need to deal with your guilt trips now - they just won't work!

i will admit that i've been much more polite in my wording of the message here than i was last night - but seriously, i don't regret it at all - i had literally JUST found out the cycle had failed, couldn't get hold of DH for a few more minutes and had received a message asking how i was doing - so i was honest - brutally honest!