[butterfly_warrior]

I just thought I'd prod this thread back to life for a bit.

I'm currently finding myself completely not coping with how close we are to Christmas, the difficulty I'm having in recovering completely from the latest round of OHSS... and I guess it is now becoming all too real to me that we've had two miscarriages this year...

DH and I both in agreement that we aren't going to be spending Christmas with either family. It appears that a quite Christmas at home with ourselves is going to be much more soothing to us than trying to cope with the chaos and noise of Christmas with my family and (for me) the scary unknown of Christmas with DH's family.

I'm not brave enough to actually call and speak to any of them and tell them they won't see us at Christmas, but my thoughts returned to the "rules" I had set out before... and a long, long letter has been typed up - explaining why we won't see them at Christmas, and telling them about the second FET and second stim cycles we kept to ourselves, and the trauma of the second miscarriage and the fairly long hospitalisation with the second case of OHSS... It then launched into a re-wording of these rules, trying to word them in a much gentler manner...

It's been another cathartic process, but again, it's something else written for my family (and DH's) that they will probably never, ever see. It appears that one is too cynical and sarcastic (I'm yet to be convinced that it is humorous and witty), and the other is three typed pages of "woe is me".

So... suggestions, comments, advice for surviving the silly season with a shred of sanity intact? What have others done in such a situation or at such a time, and how has it been recieved?

BW