For me, as well, I always felt like if support was required from them, they should give it without me having to give them instructions as to what they should do, coz it kinda takes the shine off any support they do give, IYKWIM? I much preferred it, TBH, when they just started not talking to me about IVF. I could have done without the whole 'sudden silence when I entered the room' thing, but compared to the all the other things I'd been through with them, I still preferred it.
And Taffy, I got from my mum that I should stop IVF as I was 'depriving the children (I) already have of their needs'. Apparently a new ipod or new video game for my teenagers was more important than our desire for a child.
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sushee
mum of three teens and one pre-schooler |