As much as I'd love to have given a list like this to my family, I'm pretty sure it would have been water off a ducks back with them. They already treated me like a pariah towards the end and I think if I'd given them something like this, they would have treated me as even more of a freak. But that's just my family.
I actually sent them
Infertility Information For Families & Friends and also the 'Empty Arms' link but it didn't make a hell of a lot of difference in the end. But if it's cathartic just to write it down, BW and anyone else thinking about it, I'm all for it, even if you never do pass it on.