"Thou shalt NOT casually mention that sometimes is it better just to accept that you can't have children and maybe the IVF money would be better spent paying for private school for nephews."
Oh TaffyLou, that is just awful.
I hope that no one minds me posting on this thread, as I have not been through the IVF process. I have a close friend / relative overseas who after about three years TTC is just about to start IVF. I really want to be able to support her through it in whatever way I can, but want to do it in a way that is sensitive - I'm just about to have my first and this must be really hard for her (although she's got a really warm heart and has been very pleased for me I'm sure it must hurt).
I'm concerned that she might find my support intrusive, but don't want to not offer it. Should I let her know that I'm there for her in whatever way she would like me to be, even if that means not being there, iykwim?
I don't want to be one of those well meaning but insensitive friends who end up being more hindrance than help, at a time when she needs real support.
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